Number closing is a defining moment which will determine if this girl will get the chance to see you again. But before you ask for the number there are several things you must check off to ensure she wont flake on you the next day.
1) Develope enough comfort with her while sustaining sexual tension. While you are telling her some dhv stories perhaps throw in a sexually suggestive or misinterprative phrase, she might laugh at it, which will show you are funny, but even if she doesnt you have still developed sexual tension between the two of you. The important thing with this is that you dont react too much to it yourself, pretend its just natural and no big deal to have this sort of a relationship with a total stranger. You want her to remember you when you call her the next day. If you dont think she will remember you then you should not attempt the number close. Practicing something the wrong way is not good practice.
2) Maintaining your frame. By the time you have approached this girl, she has already given her number to at least 5 other guys. What are you going to do to separate yourself from these guys. Chances are none of them truly won her over or else she would be with them, so what will you do to win her over. You have to maintain a very unreactive personality. Interrupt her sometimes, then if she has something important to say, maintain eye contact before questioning her on it. Girls hate guys that are pushovers. Speak your mind and control the frame. Become a rockstar
3)Develop an intrigueing day 2. After you have developed sexual tension and comfort. Now it is time to paint a picture in her mind of what you will be doing the next time you see eachother. It could be something like rock climbing, minigolf, laser tag anything fun that isnt done on a regular basis. This will seperate you from every other guy that has her number to this point in the night. And when you call her/text her in a couple days she will remember exactly who you are and be excited to do whatever you suggested before. The good thing about these date suggestions is they dont require you to be so social with eachother. You are able to just have fun with eachother and not be dependant on awkward forced conversation.
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Alot of the problem guys have in a bar is that they feel they are required to number close at the end of an interaction. The thing is if they know in their head they wont use it, or the girl wont pick up the phone due to lack of interest and sexual tension, then there is no point in even attempting it. When you ask for a girls number, you are increasing the girls value, thus lowering your own on a comparitive scale. If you think that the number will just flake, then dont lower your own value. Avoid the number close, tell her you have to get back to your friends, and then reopen the set later. By then you will have already created enough comfort with her to open her easily, you can introduce her to your friends, bounce with her for something to eat after, and then number close her after painting a picture in her head of the day 2. If you remember anything from this, dont just number close for the sake of number closing. Make yourself more valuable to her by NOT number closing her and then reopen later.
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