I pretty much understand the concept behind anchors, and generly dont use them in approaching and opening, but latley a lot of girls that ive been picking up have been saying things like ' How good i make them feel' and 'how hot i get them when they think of me'. Now this is setting me up real good to anchor that and use again in the future to get her back in a good mood when it deems appropriate but my only question is how to go about it.

What are some good examples of anchors to use? Touching her words etc.?
what kind of lines or routines can make doing this flow naturaly until i can get better at it?

Well I'm new to think kind of stuff, althought I have been studying what Derren Brown does I don't know the theory. Could you recommend any product for the kind of stuff Derren does and anchoring and all that stuff so I could be of more help to this part of the forum as well to the whole forum and seduction community.

the one thing that i can recomend is derron browns book Tricks of the mind. Its not about pickup obvisiosly but it is pretty intresting and ive used a few of his tricks in the field and i definitly got a few laughs from reading it.

Caress her neck, perhaps ?

The most effective anchors are set right before the state peaks, though, so you may find that turning her really on, or doing something which really turns her on, and then anchoring that either to a particular look you give her, or to a special touch, maybe some erogenous zone, or even to a word, or a tonality of choice, may be much more efficient than if you just wait for the opportunity, since you most likely will just have missed the opportune moment when she remarks. you see ?


But hey, at least it's a pretty good sign they associate you with good feelings when they remark upon it.
(In this case, you become the anchor for feeling hot, etc. )

If you really want anchors that are efficient and reliable, practice noticing her when she's on her way into that special state.
As the anchor becomes established you'll notice that her state may even become more intense than it would've been since you are reinforcing the anchor.

Kinda like an upwards spiral.

Yes, remember the way the mind process works, its thoughts -> feelings -> interpretation. By the time a question is verbally answered, the process is over. You want to anchor the whole thing, in particular, the feelings before they are consciously processed.

I think that verbal/tonal ones, in addition to physical ones, are really good because you can use them over the phone and written form as well. But also remember to make them somewhat unique but not too weird. I read many times where guys were recommended to touch a girls knee as an anchor or the small of her back - bad idea. Just going out, so many guys touch my knee or back that anchor would not work. Even the erogenous zone, or as was recommended somewhere else - biting the neck during sex, I'd say are a little iffy. Most guys will touch your erogenous zones, those places are so emotionally charged already the only way to properly anchor, I think, is consistently over a period of time. The same thing with biting the neck.. not that uncommon at all. If you bite my neck as an anchor and then another guy does that, and then you try to use that anchor again.. where does leave you?

Good physical spots that anchor that, as a girl, normally dont get attention - the back of the knees, the back of the ankles and very bones of ankles (usually when guys touch a girl's lower legs its the front of the leg above the angles), the tummy, wrists, the outsides and the insides of the elbows and armpits (tickling). I think these are good, b/c like I said, they are not places that normally get attention but they're accessible enough in the process of flirting they wouldn't grab her attention. Bad ones - front of the knee, lower legs, anywhere on the back, hand holding, playing with the fingers, stroking the neck/back of the neck/grabbing the neck, stroking the face, hair pulling or any kind of hairplay - those are all very nice but all too common..

It just struck me, when thinking about purely digital anchors....
Inside Jokes..

If there's a special inside joke you have with someone, like maybe a joke that ended with a certain word or sentence, that there is in a way an anchor to the state of happiness, or hilarity, if you will...

The point of this was that this can also be used in text.
Does this seem logical to you ?


Anchoring arousal to the nape of the neck, e.g. is not an anchor I'd expect would be triggered randomly by other guys, outside the erotic setting.

But of course, if you want an anchor that is unique to yourself only, choosing a less common place would be better.

Placing sexual anchors is something I only do with LTRs. It takes some time to place and reinforce the anchor, and of course to get the time to apply it.


Anyway: If I have anchored extreme arousal to biting a girls neck, and we decide to not fuck anymore, I don't really mind that others may find it helping.

It's not as though she'd complain if she gets horny when somebody plays with her neck, after she's been with me for some weeks, would she ?
(this is the reason I never place negative anchors,... Leave them better than you found them, and all that )

It does happen occasionally. Not kissing, but even in a bar/lounge setting, if there is really good rapport I've had a dudes hand travel to the back and the nape of my neck.

Another one I just thought of that is never mentioned - smell. Smell memory lasts for years... burberry touch for him is permanently anchored for me to a guy I dated 6 years ago. My immediate reaction, when I smell it even now, is to want to make out with somebody.

Wear a certain scent at first during sex only. Then wear it when you'll see the girl out in public. Assuming she enjoyed the sex, it will re-trigger her every time. Or for whoever else wears it.

I unintentionally did this with my ex. God help the woman wearing my perfume that crosses his path.