Hi there guys,

Last night I talked to this girl in a bus. I knew I had to move fast because she had to get out in 15 minutes. I did pretty well and manage to rush throug all the proper routines and getting a number close just seconds before she got out. Here's the last couple of sentences:

Buccaneer: thanx it's on my phone. Goodnight.
*three kisses*
HB7: all right: but no fuss allright?
Buccaneer: fuss? You mean in getting romantic or something?
HB7: yeah...
Buccaneer: What makes you think I want that...?
HB7: *babbling something in distress because the busdoor was already open*
Buccaneer: Just relax we'll discuss this later...Bye
HB7: all right, Bye *dissapears into the darkness*

Okay. Anyone got a clue on how to turn this one around from here. I'm pretty much thinking about calling her and just blow her off...I'm not very good in TA mode.

thanx guys.

Buccaneer

Mate, you kind need to see what the vibe is.

From what you wrote it looks like she said, no funny business...
If thats the case then you better meet up with her to run some game on her.

Was that the first time you have ever seen her?
Will you see her again?

Call her and ask her if she wants to go have a drink or coffee, if she doesn't know she needs to speak to you by the sounds of things before you'll get action.

I wouldn't brush her off immediately, give her a chance and ask her out.

Hi Chad99

thanx for the tip. And yes. It was the first time I met her. The vibe youre talking about wasn't as good as a PUA would like it to be. So because of the limited time I leaped forward to the number close.

So what you are saying is that I should just try to get one-on-one again and continue my routines. Leaving the question about "funny stuff" in the middle? Or should I adress it in some way?

thanx

Buccaneer

I agree that you should call and try to meet up with her again. As for the funny stuff just pretend she never said it.

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Yeh exactly, act like you never heard it.

Just ask her out, tell her that it was really nice talk to her and she seems like a nice girl and that you don't know what it is about her, but that you'd like to meet up for a coffee or lunch. It's less formal and less threatening than drinks or dinner.

E.G.

You: Hey how are you
HB: Yeh fine and you...

You: good, ask what shes been upto... some other random questions or stuff which is interesting

Throw in a FTC: like 'I can only talk for a couple mins...'

HB: yadayadyada

You: Well anyways, it was lovely/great to meet you the other day and I really enjoy conversing with you... would you like to meet up for lunch or coffee so we can talk some more.

One of the key's will be trying to hook her with some interesting conversation, so if the bus convo was good use that a bit, or try something new if you have any ideas what shes into.

Also don't tlk for long on the phone. Just set up the date and get out of there.... be open and honest with her, cause she doesn't know you at all, but try and be somewhat mysterious, so when you answer her questions, if you can, leave them open for interpretation....

Hope that helps...
She obviously has some interest in you otherwise why would she give you her number and after one meeting you will know if she is interested at all.

Okay guys.

Weird thing happend. I just called her to see if she could go ice skating tomorrow. Because of the freezing cold here in the Netherlands its what everybody is doing anyways.

Like advised, I kept chitchat minimum and got out of there ASAP. She couldn't come tomorrow (and didn't have iceskates), but agreed that last convo was short and should be followed up.

She will not be around tomorrow, so no deal. And because of both having busy schedules, we now agreed to have a cup of coffee or something at the mall (I say that more often but after throwing up after having a cop uf coffee 12 years ago I definitily dont drink that shit anymore). We still have to schedule it later.

So what now? Freeze out? The initiative is officialy still mine.

Thanx for the support so far guys. We're half way there.

I'm off sarging. Never hurts to start some new projects

Greetz

Buccaneer

Ok, well at least you made contact and it wasn't a disaster.
She obviously remembered who you were which is a plus!

When you ask a girl like that out, I always find it better to tell her your busy and then give her two options or times when she can see you. That, like you said she was busy then she has an alternate day to chose from.

Then if she is no good for both those dates, she will be like I can't do either of those days. You say, well which days do you have free?
She answers and you can slip in, well I might be able to make an exception and switch xyz to this day and we can go out on the day she said.

So cause we weren't part of the convo, and you didn't make any arrangements, you need to do more vibe feeling.
Like was she genuinely busy or was she busy cause she doesn't want to meet up?

1. If she was genuinely busy, I hope you kinda asked her what she had on and when she may have some free time.
2. If she doesn't want to meet up, you need to leave it for a few days and send her a funny, interesting msg and start a msg convo with her.

If you agreed for coffee, that is good. Remember you don't have to drink coffee man, you can have tea or hot chocolate... haha

I would call when you feel is appropriate and arrange to meet her. This time when you call give her two options, and if you can make it a proper date. Although if all you can get is coffee, take it.

Good luck mate