"You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy.”
It's already 2009 and it's time for a few of us do some permanent lifetime changes for the better! Having confidence in yourself is a major part of enjoying life and having a great time. Too many of us worry and spend countless hours trying to live up to others expectations. Here are a couple tips I have gathered from personal, and outside sources that might be beneficial for you guys to bring out that cool, outgoing, and fun person that is in you
♠ Improve your diet- This can be one of the easiest yet hardest depending on your bad habits. Try to focus on eating lean meals and staying away from extra condiments just for your pleasure. I used to be a bigtime BBQ sauce on every type of meat kind of guy, after realizing the amount of extra sugars, calories etc im adding to my meal for a little more enjoyment...It wasn't worth it. Sorry Sweet Baby Ray's RIP. Also remember water, water, water! Keep yourself well hydrated. You aren't hydrated until your pissing clear.
♠ Get a haircut- Getting a clean cut maybe a new style of haircut is definitely worth the $15 they charge nowadays. Go to a reputable barber shop and become friends with your barber.
♠ Buy new cologne - To go along with your new haircut get a new cologne. Talk to the salesperson and sample many of them.
♠ Set priorities- Take a piece of paper and write down what in your life is important to you. The first thing on that list should be YOURSELF.
♠ Get a new watch- Invest into a nice timepiece. This will last you for decades if you take care of it.
♠ Stop comparing- Stop comparing yourself to others. Its essential
♠ Enjoy work- You spend over 50% of your lifetime there so enjoy what you are doing. If you don't enjoy going to work then look for another job!
♠ Drop bad habits- Drop the bad habits and develop good ones. I bit my nails for over 10 years, constantly. It was disgusting and not attractive at all, I was always hiding my fingers so people wouldn't see them. November 2008 I decided it was time to stop. Till this day I have yet to bite them.
♠ Cut the dead weight- Whatever isn't helping you progress you need to cut it out. If its excessively eating, negative friends, watching too much porn, or just not going out enough.
♠ Hit the gym- Not only will you bulk up and look great, you will FEEL great about yourself.
♠ Get nostalgic- This is when you take out stuff that you are proud of. Take out plaques and trophies that shows you are indeed a badass
♠ Pump yourself with music- Someone posted a great thread in the lounge about music. Check it out!
♠ Show some love to your roots- When you lacking confidence your true friends and family can give you a talk and support you to lift you back up!
♠ Live your dream- Rekindle, Relive, go after that dream you once had. It's never too late!
♠ Favorite clothing- Wear your favorite boxers or briefs, wear that goofy looking hat you love.
♠ Car wash- Nothing sucks more than having to say no or move those Mt.Dew bottles out the way so your date can sit. Pimp out your whip! get your car detailed!
♠ Be sharp- You don't need to have money to look sharp. This doesn't mean you need to fill your entire closet with clothing either. "spend twice as much, buy half as much", it is better to have little amount of QUALITY clothing than a lot of junk clothing.
♠ Pacing yourself- Walk with a purpose, you are a busy person with people to see and places to be at. Try increasing your walking speed by 20% and you will demonstrate more confident.
♠ Good posture- This is when I should of listened more when I was in class to "sit up straight". lethargic movements and slumped shoulders are easy signs of lack of confidence. You will feel more alert and empowered when you focus on a good posture.
♠ Compliment people- Being alpha doesn't mean you don't compliment people. Giving a sincere compliment will give yourself a self confidence boost. You will indirectly bring the best out of yourself when you are looking for the best in others.
♠ Sit upfront- Stop carrying bad highschool habits where sitting in the back was thought to be "cool". Whenever you get a chance in a room sit towards the front, you want to be noticed. You will be closer to whoever has the spotlight and lose your irrational fear of being noticed.
♠ Speak up- Sean Messenger made a great post on how being belly breather can really enhance your tone.
♠ Practice- All this information you are reading and trying in the field to make yourself a better person takes plenty of practice. With enough practice you will start noticing more people and stop tunnel visioning yourself.
♠ Failing- Don't be afraid of failures take them in your stride and move on. Say to yourself that you will succeed the next time. Never make the mistake of allowing your failures to overwhelm you. It will force you into a shell, and destroy your self-confidence.
♠ Give your room a makeover- Your room should be the most interesting yet comforting place in the house. Get some cool props and interesting pieces of furniture that will draw people to your room. Make sure it smells pleasant.
♠ Compliment yourself- Look at yourself before you go out in the mirror and tell yourself how sexy you are! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
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♠ Shower nudist- When you get out of the shower in the morning, and your applying moisturisers, shaving or whatever, STOP, don't put on a towel or any clothes and spend the next 15 minutes like that.
Seriously, a short spell of casual nudism in the morning can make you feel comfortable and at home with your skin for the rest of the day.
♠ Meditate- Just for a couple of minutes as a wind down before bed, helps clear your thoughts, makes sure you get a good nights sleep and leaves you feeling good about yourself.
♠ GET A LIFE-Find hobbies you enjoy, friends you like, find opinions on subjects that interest you, go to work that you WANT to go to. If a girl is interested in you, that includes whats waiting for you when you go home to your place tonight. If your life is positive, YOU are positive, and People in general, not just women love personality and positivity.
♠ Flirt without intent- even with the granny driving the bus, and that fat chick at work, then it'll come natural with the hot girl behind the counter in the abercrombie store. Have fun, be happy and live in the moment, and focus on those kind of thoughts whenever you might feel down.
CHAT
