I am thinking of starting online sarging. I have the layout, pics, content down. But when it comes down to it Facebook and Myspace are social networking sites that serve as a window into your personal life. My personal life isn't that attractive.

I only have 3 good friends and a handful of acquaintances I hardly talk to, only 3 of these contacts are girls. I have a myspace at the moment. I normally talk to my contacts people in person, so i don't use myspace much. My last comment on my myspace was in like September and even when I used it frequently i only got like a comment every week.

This really kills the facade that I am some super cool socially proofed guy that girls drool over. Seeing as how my myspace is a sausage fest.

Any Advice on how i can make it seem like i have more social proof via fiends on my profile?

iono .. i have the same problem .

i was busting this girls ball about her being home all the time , not havin much of a life b/c shes always reading / spending time with her sisters .. so she says ..

so what do YOU do on the free time ? ..... didnt have much of a reply ...

i am totally with you on this .. other than like two friends , one of which i stopped talkin to and the other who is a dumbass .. i have acquintances .... barely any social proof .

heres my advise ... not trying to offend anyone ..

make friends with fat chicks .... they ahve lots of free time and will keep your profile filled with stupid comments about their life ... will get you a little social proof ... get THEIR friends ....

i have a mate who has nailed this down perfectly

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Hmm... from what ive come to discover recently myspace is all about
social proof... If a couple hott girls comment your pics and say your hott
everyone thinks soo, My advice just game up a couple hot girls get to
sawp pc4pc with you.. Then talk to them regularly (no not everyday
your a busy guy) but they key is talk to them thru comments not msg.
When other hott girls see hott girls already like you, they be like ok
this guy would be cool to talk to ..
Ive been in both spectrums of this problem.. And i recently MAJORLY
upped my social proof now hott girls are commented my pics saying hott
when i never had a comment before, i randomly msg hott girls and theyll
just comment me back..
So try it, tell me what you think

Personally I use myspace for sarging and facebook for my close personal friends and keep the 2 seperate. I hardly have any of my close friends on my myspace and I dont allow random girls on my facebook. So I guess you could say I dont have much "social proof" going for me on my myspace. If Im ever questioned as to why I only have girls on my friends list on myspace I just say that most of my friends think myspace is for nerds so its my dirty little secret and that works.

Heres a few things you could do though. If your not getting many comments, make your page so that you cant see comments. that way it looks like your mysterious and dont want the whole world seeing all your comments. They'll never know the truth. If your questioned about it say you were getitng sick of girls getting jelous and cyber stalking your comments. It makes you look like youve had multiple girls chasing after you. Also add random people to get your profile started and keep your friends numbers rising. But one thing I try to do is keep my friends at around the 250 mark and nowhere above that. Im constantly deleting people. The reason for this is it looks like you only have people you genuinly know on your profile. All these bozos out there with 10000's of friends just look like they accept every tom dick and harry and it does the oppisate of social proof.

I hope this helps.

im not sure i agree with the last part. i have over 1,000 friends and it makes it easier to add random girls.

But it must work for your style.

I have a few girls who are needy/medium attractiveness and a few really hott girls who just are myspace junkies and a few hott girl friends

u just find girls who u cankeep around and comment back and forth. its good to talk about things u are going out and doing with other people in your comments. some people overdo this, but try to make it appear like u get out alot and know these people in real life...

[quote="JamieP"]But one thing I try to do is keep my friends at around the 250 mark and nowhere above that. Im constantly deleting people. The reason for this is it looks like you only have people you genuinly know on your profile. All these bozos out there with 10000's of friends just look like they accept every tom dick and harry and it does the oppisate of social proof.[quote]

I disagree my friend used a progam to just add 1000 random
people. Now random hott girls are finding him adding him and msging
him

thats called bots ..

No.. Its real people, they live in his area. And their in highschool
(Im still in highschool). They just are like wow he has alot of
friends, hot girls are commenting him, so they just follow suit
and add and comment him too

hahahahaha....so true. Not great social proof, but maybe you come off as someone who isnt that shallow...

I made myspace because i was pressured into it...yeah! thats it....i was pressured into it...

I always heard people speaking of it, but never understood the craze...i figured i was content with all my friends in my cell phone and did not need myspace to keep in contact.

I broke down and created one, added a few friends...started to realize the power of myspace.

Like you i had very little social proof on "myspace" so i started with the browse function, the women i found attractive i sent friends requests too. Eventually i had a "collection" of girls i never had met, but i started to get comments.

This lead way to the people i actually had met and was added to my friends list to see that i did have social proof...

Over time, i started to weed out those that i did not speak with...and keep the ones i did. I still have some people on my myspace for "astetics" and i still randomly invite girls when im in the mood...but any way you look at it, i have the social proof that i need.

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