hes too protective and it drives me crazy but no other guy will care about me as much as he does.
plus right now we have a situation to where we think im pregnant and im scared to death and im not ready for a kid and i know that hed be a good father and he wudnt leave me and hes a good guy to have a kid with but just not right now...so im freaking out...and i want to enjoy life still and i still wanna flirt with ppl and everything and get compliments and feel sexy but he gets mad when guys tell me im cute and i do love him but i feel like if im not with him...ill lose him and he loves me so much and he doesnt want a break and idk when he proposed it felt right.
idk alots on my mind but i love him but i feel rushed and when i tell him my feelings he gets mad about it and assumes im breaking up with him.

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From: Me
Date: Jan 5, 2009 9:04 PM


I was in a long relationship and it felt comfortable and safe and exciting, but when i broke up with the girl i realized that it was me that was fun and comfort is something you should have with anyone you're dating and security is a self confidence thing...

maybe you could go on a two week camping trip with just you and him and not too much but the basics and see how u do together








----------------------> I was talkin to her, gamin if you can call my half ass shit gamin, but then she said she was engaged, and I put the fucking idea aside and gave her some advice, but now it really seems like i got an oppertunity here. But im in the logical friendly advice mode i think


I am obviously not doing this right... what can i say now???


(ill post her other two comments to me after she said she was engaged)

If she were my friend, here's how I would handle it...

I would basically say, ok, it's time for a vacation. Lets go to _____ (amusement park, mini golf, shopping, whatever's nearby and open ). ***Not a bar/alcohol place, since she might be preggers**

Make it spontaneous, make it fun. Normally I would have a problem with what you're doing, but it sounds like the guy she's with is smothering her. You can't catch a butterfly by smashing your hands together.

She wants you to take her away from her mess... take her mind off it. Find something to do and invite her along. Don't ask her, say you'll be at ____ and she should go too to get her mind of things.

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See me, I tend to stay away from engaged chicks.

Karma's real bro. Someone will game your lady away from you one day if you do it. Stay friends or cut it off...shes engaged and may be pregnant! You don't wanna deal with all that anyway

Oh i forgot, she only is local in the summer, cuz her dad lives near me. She told me that when i invited her, but she didnt seem to be against the idea.


Now what? I mean she lives kinda far away? Should i get her to drive here?

if so I don't think i should do it now, i think if i did i would seem needy or only concerned with sex.

she is 16. She should not be engaged. she thinks they guy might have got her pregnant, and he's overprotective of her and smothering her.

I told her what I thought without being manipulative for my purpose of sex at all and she agreed more than i did with my own idea lol

...???

she's barely legal in my state. The bigger ethical question is whether someone my age should hit that shit lol

uhh....... if you're not a teenager anymore, I would probably run. and if you're like 30, you might need help, pedo... haha.. j/k

Even if you were 17, since she's apparently far away, it's not worth it. Trust me. If you want to be her pen pal, that's fine, but don't expect anything more than that, IMHO.

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lol thanks. ur right, ill just hold onto her till we both in town together, whether its her down here or me up there. but yeah im 21 and 16 is kinda lower than i like to go, my current limit is 17.

but in michigan the age of consent is 16, which is kinda decieving cuz girls under 18 are very likely to freak out and lie when their parents find out shit

so yeah...

but in michigan u can fuck a 16 yr old girl even if ur 35

but people will kinda hit u in the face

Mate just to throw this out here aswell, even if she ain't pregnant, this experience will have scared the shit outta her and getting her to have sex with you might be and impossible task!! Sounds as though she is very unhappy, but needs a good friend more than anything. Careful you don't end up in a place you don't want to be and more importantly, careful you don't fuck her head up more than it obviously is at the moment, thats not what the game is for!!!

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I'm going to live forever.....or die trying!!!

run... run far, far away.

you are in the best friend zone, sorry pal. and she not only is looking for help, she actually NEEDS it. gaming her across state lines just so you can score her (sex or not) is pretty immoral. If it were me I would just try to give her good advice and be her friend if I had the time. Who knows, maybe in a short while she will be thru this mess and in the proper emotional state of mind to be properly gamed, if you know what I mean.. Otherwise I would let her go. We are supposed to improve peoples lives by being in contact with them, not cause regret or even damage. just my 2c.