Ok so I have been dating a girl who recently broke up with her long term ex....We didnt really plan on dating but it just happend....I guess it was really bad timing! Any ways her ex was and is still a massive ass hole to her! Now she told me she is 100% over him but I dont think she is at all! because yesterday she called me crying saying she had been kicked out of the bar for pushing him after she spotted him making out with one of her good friends....she then told me that he hates her not, and that she wants closer with him ect ect ect....she kept talking about him and in my head I was geting really mad!

At this point I had been trying to comfort her the best I could but then I lost it when she said "I dont expect you to understand" and hung up!

So I text her saying this:

You know what? I might not understand but at least I’m trying to because I care and I don’t like to see you hurt…..but all I hear from you is “I don’t expect you to understand" Well fuck that! You say you don’t like this guy but then you let him control you and get in your head….To me that does not sound like someone you don’t still have feeling for....why you care about him is beyond me? He's a controlling pathetic waste of my time and I don’t respect him at all because the way he treats you and because he enjoys making you feel like shit....So fuck it you know what? you and your ex can figure your shit out....Im tired of it.

We have not talked since....but I have a feeling she will msg me at some point....I really like this girl alot! but Im not going to be her comfort blanket ever time this douch makes her up set....I would tell her to fuck off if we didnt get along so well, and I didnt like her so much.

This girl is confused and in a bad emotional place. Getting involved with her will inevitably drag you into her whole drama. If you have to see her/talk to her, keep it down to once a week until she's sorted out her head.

And be prepared for a lot of drama...

See I like her alot! I mean when we are alone we get along like best friends! and we have so much fun! but then she brings herex into it....we havent talked in more then a day now so im just gunna wait until she calls me.

My prob is Im not sure what im gunna say when she calls....I really dont want to end things because shes a great girl but Im so over this drama and im not gunna be her emotional blanket....Iduno

Sup bro, Ive been in th same position. Looking back on it I should have ejected for awile ( a month or 2). This is my advise for you. I you still really want her speek to her on an emotional level not on a logical one as you have been. I know others dont understand what your going through but an outside perspective is usually much better cause it's not clouded by feelings. Hope that helps. I feel your pain. Good luck. Peace.

How long have you two been together? Because emotionally supporting someone you barely know is not a good way to escalate.

Not only does it portray that you know what THE problem is, but you know what HER and HIS problem is and YOU can FIX it all!

You don't want to be her comfort blanket, so when you two start talking again, and he comes up, change the subject. Don't be the blanket for that, and she will eventually learn it is okay to open up to you, but not about that stuff.

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