Hi chaps, I'm new to this but learning fast and loving it. All critical and positive comments appreciated.

Ok so here is the situation. Met a girl (and her 2 friends) in a bar yesturday, she is the ADHD type, but good looking. She strikes me as the kind of girl who is used to male attention, and gets bored of AFCs. She tried to pair me off with her friend right away, but I made it pretty clear I wasn't interested. The bar shut and she then invited me and my wing back to thiers. I made out like we had to get back home and didn't have time, but was eventually 'persuaded' by them .

So in the house we all played some drinking games, and chatted and it was going well, I used her need for attention to my advantage - by giving her none. Sure enough I was suddenly getting IOIs, shittests and eventually some serious kino from the girl, (persistantly trying to hold my hand on the sofa despite me telling her 'no touching'). It still amazes me how this stuff works...Anyway, I was getting all the positive signs, and it got late and I had to go. I kissed her on both cheeks, and then went for the lips. I didn't go for a full out kiss, but I wish I had now.

Is tomorrow is a good time to text her? and what do you think the context of my text should be baring in mind I only met her yesturday and did not even get a proper K - close. Something playful that also helps me work out if her interest was genuine, or just down to drunken tomfoolery haha. Thanks guys.

the way u played it seemed to work out pretty well for u, and chances are could have got the k close, did u sorta go for it half assed? making it awkward or was it not even on the mind?

the adhd chick shit is hard to read when it comes to msging, maybe wait an extra day and call her instead and tell her where u wanna take her or whatever.(dont ask, tell)

I would definitely wait a day.
There is no point jumping in there and saying hey lets go out.

Play some games with her first and pull the string a bit.


I saw something posted here the other day. It went something like this.

I hope your feeling fun, flirty and sexy. I'm going to call you, and when I do I want you to have 3 interesting things to tell me.'

See what she replies with... if she likes you she'll be excited and if not brush her. Chances are she will be and when she tells you the first thing, you could neg her and be like aw thats not that exciting, whats no.2... then break it off and just go into conversation.

the point is to try and create some excitement and DHV.

It was definately on the mind. The decision to go for a peck on the lips instead was made a split second before I did. Truth be told you could probably put it down to inexperience, I wasn't expecting things to work out so well and nerves kicked in. Not a mistake I'll make again soon.

I think you're both right about waiting longer. Thanks for the tips

I would say wait a day or two and text something like this:

" something reminded me of you today "


that's going to guarantee a response..

She's going to ask you what??

So you can go two ways:

1. Go for the meet
By saying something like.. i'll let you know tomorrow night.

Make sure if you're going to go this route. To have a plan in mind already.



2. Come up with something funny that relates to something involved in the pick up. text back anf forth. Make sure she's the last one to text.

And then do number 1. A couple of days later when you have a plan.


Ex:

me: Something reminded me of you today.

her: What?
Me: Saw a cute little girl wearing the same exact necklace that you were wearing the other day. I thought hey that's " mini liza"

She's going to think that's funny and then go from there.


I hope it helps..


Bluelover

Thanks man, I like the 'something reminded me' idea and relating it to a running joke in the pick up. I'm gonna use that today, I'll let you know how it goes

Ok that worked out great, you guys are good

I sent her a 'x reminded me of you' text although I went for more of a jokey neg approach and it worked. After her reply she followed up with an invitation to a quiz night at the bar tonight. Despite wanting to go I declined and said I had other plans as I seem to remember reading something about making sure you keep things on your own terms. I told her to text me if she needed help in the quiz (she didn't).

More texts? Call her? Wait or not? Meet with just her/her group. I don't feel I've built enough comfort with her to invite just her out. Perhaps more of the same wouldn't go amiss (arranging to meet the three girls with me and my wing). What do you sages think?

Thanks for your help

So in the house we all played some drinking games, and chatted and it was going well, I used her need for attention to my advantage - by giving her none.

I love it!

Call her in a couple of days, setup a time to meet then hang up. Don't spend time on the phone chatting.

Keep friends out of the picture if possible, they can get in the way if you want to amp up the attraction. If she wants to bring her friends, play it cool and have fun with it.

Nice work so far.

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Yeh brining friends is a bad idea if you ever want to get to know a girl. At least intially.

Wait a day or two. Then you could call or txt.
You want to meet with just the two of you.

It was good that you didn't rush to meet her out.
I would call if I was you, have a qucik chat, not too long. Ask her if she would like to go out with you somewhere, give her 2 options for a time. i.e. your only avilable on two particular occasions to see her, like wed or fri night.

That way you dhv as your busy. Also if she can't make those two nights, just say, well what nights are you free? She answers, then just show a bit of hesitation and tell her you'll rearrange to meet her on that night.

Cool man! i'm glad it work.

Remember don't fall into the trap of thinking that everything she tells you is a test. I'm not saying you are. But i know i was. So maybe you can learn from my past mistakes.

Sometimes i think back and i want to hit myself for all the times that i refused to do something with a girl or maybe didn't respond to her "advances" because i thought she was testing me somehow and me being the "alphan man" had to keep my composure or whatever.

That's going to come with time. but learn to calibrate that.

Sometimes girls do want to see you. Maybe she wanted you to be at the quiz night at the bar.

Don't waste opportunities.

It doesn't matter if you don't think that you didn't built enough comfort with her to ask her out.

Next time you talk to her just say:

You know what?.. tomorrow i'm going to do X.. and i want you to come with me.

Say it in a cocky funny way... And let's see how it goes.


Take care bro!


Blue