When I read a good field report, I usually find myself picking out the tiny golden nuggets of wisdom that I can apply to my own game. In a field report this usually is in the form of "so from that experience, I realized that... "

To keep these realizations at arm's reach I'm starting this thread. Please feel free to add your own realizations... I'll start with these two (notice, the realization is BOLD and the optional explanation is in regular font):

A few weeks into learning game, I realized that jealousy really is a powerful motivator for women. I went to a movie with 2 friends (girls), an HB6 and an HB7. They don't know each other that well so I sat between them. It was during this "date" that I saw the true power of rewarding compliance with attention, and punishing non-compliance by turning and giving attention to another girl.

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A couple days ago I realized that you have to be careful when using negs on girls who are really young (teens) because a lot of them haven't become fully aware of their beauty yet, and uncalibrated negs can easily make you look like a jerk. Their emotional makeup is still just too fragile to handle anything but the lightest neg.


...ok show me what you got!

After AMOGing a couple of neighborhood gangster wannabes, i realized that if you provoke white-trash douchebags, you'll have a lot of idle threats thrown your way.

Thank you Flourish, I'm glad you err... learned something.

Last night I learned this: We all know that kino is good. But to really amp up its effect especially during comfort (C1-C3) where both of you realize you're attracted to each other, eye contact is extremely important. For example, if she grabs your hand, let her hold it for a few seconds (remember to calibrate). Add to that some killer eye contact, you don't even have to say anything, and it will send chills up/down her spine.

Yes. Oh yes. I was at a bar not long ago with a pure AMOG buddy of mine, this guy is the definition. Usually, when we meet girls, he dominates the situation, but that's all changing now that I'm single. Anyways, so we're having a pint at this bar, and he says there's two chicks coming to say hi to us soon. One of them we had already met, and he was gaming, the other was to be her friend whom neither of us knew. So finally the one we knew walks over to say Hi, and I said fuck it, I'm gonna game this chick anyways. So I gave her the eyes. Girls lovvve it. We got to talking, she said I was "dreamy" joking around, but definite IOI. So then she goes to get her other friend. This was a crucial moment. Like I said, usually my AMOG buddy steals the show in this kind of scenario, but lo and behold...
The two girls walk over, and her friend is easily an HB9, and I'm being modest. So I believe my buddy got introduced first, no bother, when it came time for me I gave her the most charming smile and held eye contact that definitely gave her goosebumps. One trick is to try and find her eye color, it makes you look like you're curious and searching her eyes, mezmorized. We didn't speak much or at all because the girls had to go meet their friends at another table right away, but it was OK. When the new girl walked away and said bye, the smile she gave me was 3x the one she gave my buddy.
The realization here is quite simple. You have to be the movie star, the guy she fantasizes about. So work on your eye contact, convey a bit of innocence and mystery. Appear to be taken aback by her beauty.

good posts! About the neg theory on young girls-- i couldn't agree more. But i think you should be careful with the neg regardless of which girl you are talking about. Some women are actually INSECURE and will be offended if you neg them to harshly.

It is --in my opinion-- always better to start off with light negs and depending on how the target responds, increase the magnitude of it until you reach the comfort phase.

Backdoor Man, good field report on eye contact, I totally agree. I like the eye color thing. I'll try that soon.

FS34, so true. It takes practice! I'm finding more and more that a neg is like a hammer. It is really useful, but you have to know how to use it so as not to end up with a broken thumb. haha well you get the point...

Kino, kino, kino! Turns a maybe into a yes. As an afc I'd tell a girl I thought she was cool and let's go out on a date blah blah blah. That was wrong because it gave her the opportunity to say NO. Kino let's you say the same thing non-verbally and she is far less likely to say no. In fact, if she's at all attracted to you, she'll like it and later backward analyze: hey I liked it when he touched me so I must really like him. Girls really do think backwards from guys:

A man's process: "Hi, I'm a man. I like (step 1) this girl. Therefore, I will kino (step 2)." (attraction -> kino)

A woman's process: "Hi, I'm a woman. I enjoy this kino (step 1). Therefore, I must like (step 2) this man." (kino -> attraction)

Most guys don't talk loud enough. Me included. I should probably get into the habit of kicking it up a good 30% of my usual volume in social settings.

It's actually a really good idea to keep around a couple of LJBF HBs. They can give you insight into your game that your average guy just can't. Sometimes you have to learn to interpret what they say into something useful but their input can be a gold mine nonetheless.

The most important thing in everything you do is to have fun and stop caring about what people think. Fear of acceptance is the recipe for rejection. Treat everyday as if you're on a journey in a far away mystical land and people will be drawn to your natural confidence.

The most attractive person in the world is a fun person.

awesome. interesting concept, i can see how that would work well even in day game.

By the time you approach a girl, she's already decided if she's attracted to you. Wow. I never came to the full realization of this until today.

I went into a bookstore, found a cool book and took it to the coffee shop area to sit down and read for a few minutes whilst I waited for a phone call. I know I entered the area with great presence just oozing confidence.

Today was one of those days that I had previously decided would be game-free, just me running some errands, pursuing a couple of hobbies, proving to myself that "hey I'm awesome with girls, but they're not my life." Anyway, the day had been going quite well for me, getting things done, and I essentially felt like a million bucks.

So back to the bookstore. By the time I sat down with my book, I realized out of the corner of my eyes, that I had the attention of every girl in the area. Seriously. Even the milf's were eyeing me. My phone vibrated and a I looked up to check the caller id I caught the super cute blonde HB8 in the corner checking me out, and she KNEW I caught her. I maintained eye contact and gave her a nice smile, she responded in kind. But I have to keep reminding myself that girls aren't my life, so I answered my phone and left the bookstore.

Your game depends sooo much on how you enter a room. You must own it.

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