So my girl is Way older than me, this guy at her work was telling her how awesome she is and how he would love to marry and girl like her. This was after she had gone to a movie with him maybe two weeks ago...which i was totally cool with and played it cool, pretended like i could care less, he wasnt creeping on her prior to this and i trust her shes just a really really nice girl. But she said it was bothering her that he was saying these things and i said that he was just trying to get in her pants and that it sounds like textbook bad game to me that desperate guys play

He has a girlfriend and was telling her that he was thinking about leaving her. He didnt say that he wanted to be with her exactly but he def was crossing the line i think. So she asked for my opinion and i said that he is not the guy he seems to be, he is obviously trying to hit on her and i dont appreciate it...But that im not going to stop her from seeing him if she wants to maintain a prof relationship with him. she said ok and that she will see. I didnt mention it for three days played it cool to much strain and she later told me that she said to him that she came to the conclusion herself that his intentions werent sincere and she would only see him at work and thats it.

I told her:

Its fine for her to be in the same group with him, i could care less...but if she were to start seeing him alone i would consider it a date knowing of his intentions and it wouldnt be fair for me.

she agreed

he still calls her sometimes but she keeps it short with him and shows no interest.

never brought it up again.

so its done with from what i can see but just wondering how i handled it. Or could improve what i did. It was a very difficult situation becuase i really do love her. shes friggin sweet, just dont want to be the jealous dick. Wouldnt mind meeting this guy and giving him a nice hand shake and friendly incognito stare down.

If he calls her more in front of me (which has happened) or if hes brought up in convo sometime is there anything i can say or do to further lower the shit out of his value? besides what i already said like: him saying these things to her is as if he were already cheating on his girlfriend.

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you heard me right the first time

I think you handled it very well, and she didnt seem bitchy about it either.

Just be confident that you have what it takes to please her and keep her interested in you, and you only. He's just another orbiter--and the less you bring it up or care about it, the less she'll care about it too. Women want they can't have--and if you create a boundary for her like "DONT EVER TALK TO HIM AGAIN" she MAY feel compelled to pursue something with him.

Stay confident, stay sharp, keep up the good work.

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I'm addicted to facing my fears.

thanks alot. It took alot out of me to handle it this way.

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you heard me right the first time

Sounds like the same situation I am dealing with currently.

How did you keep lowering his value? I got upset about it a coulpe times, but lately she's commented on how it doesn't bother me anymore. She says that they are "just really good friends", and he's already slept with one of her friends (she was really hot and a sloot). He's not aggressive towards her, but something just doesn't feel right about his intentions.

How do I make him DLV?

I just didnt bring him up in conversation. I told her how i felt, said that he has emotional problems obviously and pointed out that due to his behavior, leaning towards cheating on his current gf that he is not legit. But i then gave her the decision what she wanted to do. She can hang with him if she wants, but if its in a group its no biggie. A date situation i wouldnt accept unless business related. Just brush it off your shoulders pretend like it doesnt bother you and have fun with a few buddys for a night out. Its too much to worry about. If a girl cheats on you its becuase we werent providing something as alphas, we slipped...she did too...but the fault is two part.

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you heard me right the first time

i think you handled that really well.
it would be hard for me but i would try and do the same thing myself