| the of the problems online is that you can't see how women behave with other types of guys and since the best strategy is the one that works on the most people figuring out whats going on in women's heads can only help and is pretty interesting. Im more into the interesting aspect lol. You cant really ask this kind of thing, as its mostly in the realms of unconscious behaviour and intelligent women on sites is something of a minority, therefore what ever they say tends not to apply to the majority.
I discovered that on adult friend finder once, some popular blogger guys I knew who couldnt get much interest from outside blog circles at my instigation changed their pics to more raunchy explicit ones and got more interest. Female bloggers, who were generally more intelligent, were totally cynical and couldnt seem to get their head around the obvious fact that more interest = more chance of "success". It didnt half cause a massive argument when one of them blogged about it haha but I digress.
These days I experiment on social me on facebook because it's quite a simplistic system and the "way people use it" is mostly fixed and you can make more direct comparisons over how people respond to different sets of initial data. opening with messages is a viable tactic but its harder to measure people's general reaction
so when you tag someone they will either.
ignore you
thank you
message you
flirt
slap you.
we can ignore slap, and hardly anyone will flirt instead of message. It seems to be case on there that if you are active, you will appear to more women. if you sit there and do nothing, nothing happens. I have 2 profiles me and an bare chested high hbguy. we're kind of at opposite ends of a spectrum.
so here's what i've figured out so far, maybe some of it obvious.
the nature of your picture is absolutely critical. how they like the look of you determines how they will respond. say u have a neutral topical tag such as "got a xmas pressie for you" I get lots of thanks, hbguy gets lots of what is its messages and return tags
built-in tags are suboptimal for everyone, we know which ones are massively overused, however hbguy still does slightly better overall. a few flirts and messages but still mostly thanks.
messages hbguy gets are short, ie not a lot of thought went into them, ie, a snap judgement over his pic.
by the tags hbguy gets, women have no qualms about saying what they really think. its basically all hot and sexy and equivalent custom tags and he gets a lot more tags in general. me to get tagged I have to alter my profile, seems to make me appear more what I thought but with hbguy getting tags moreoften, clearly women are 'next'ing me. The reality appears to be mostly they either tag sexy or hot or nothing.
this creates an interesting paradox as if I tag with tired of the same old tags, I get a lot of yes and equivalent responses/messages. which makes u think nobody wants hot sexy tags but at the same time that's what they want to give. It implies an explanation of tired of guys I dont like the look of tagging me with the same tags.
I've got long hair so i get a lot of great hairstyle and the odd better hair than me message. Given that women apparently want to tag hot sexy etc,
anything other than the aforementioned tags is mostly politeness.
so i changed hbguy for guy with long hair in a "fun" pose. no more hot sexy tags, now tags are a wide array of generic non sexual tags. however he's still getting a lot messages off the xmas pressie tag.
this tends to imply you can either look good or look interesting either will get you response. I havent got any pics that look either really which is why I dont get much action on there unless I'm especially clever with my tags. You can counteract this phenomena with clearly intelligent wit but of course then a lot don't get it lol.
This kind of enquiry is mostly theoretical as best chance of success is still with opening messages. Whatever % of responses you get it's likely some of the rest is cos they took a dislike to your pic. It's unlikely you'll interest everyone but no reason to alienate some.
If you try the xmas pressie tag (in your own words!) be prepared for most people to ask in some fashion what it is,
You can either go with bad luck to find out before hand, or tell them something amusing they obviously needed. there's endless opportunities for CF in this.
another one I just thought of is, got u a birthday present, if they're interested 99% will say its not their birthday of course hehe, you can either say its early or late and then perhaps back to what is it and c & f
just had a random thought. u know that secret santa thing ppl do in offices, take that thought to a proper dating site, and message something alone the lines of
in the spirit of secret santa I got you a xmas present.
they'll either, i reckon, quiz your dubious definition of "secret" santa, or ask what it is.
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