I don't have very much experience in the field. I was talking to a friend the other day and he told me to be honest with girls on the first date about my lack of experience. I can approach and get first dates but I always get nervous and bomb on the date. He thinks being honest will make the girl more willing to help me get passed it.

Your thoughts would be welcome.

Yeah they can probably notice if you're nervous or acting weird on a date... so probably best for you to say you don't date many girls.

Honesty is always better than the alternative. Chicks dig a guy who doesn't front about his skills. If you don't date a lot, or you don't have a lot of experience in the sack, she's going to know it eventually. Why set up false expectations?

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Thanks for your comments

This is just my opinion but.. I would say DONT tell them that. My reason is cuz girls like a guy who is CONFIDENT and if your tellin them that u would not look very confident. I would say just try to act smooth and confident and eventual as you go on more dates you'll get better. Practise makes perfect. (This is just my opinion im not sayin any else is wrong this is just what i think)

I also agree not to tell them because of the confidence issue. They want a man that will lead. What ive done in some cases was write down interesting stories or questiions. Have at least some preplanned material using the MM techniques. Hopefully youll have good enough conversation so you wont have to use that stuff but just in case. Ive gone out and had to use every preplanned script I could and still couldnt get any reall conversation and other times didnt have to use any. Ive done this on the phone to to make sure my conversations are as interesting as possible. Maybe try to go out with girls who are not in your circle of friends for a while so you dont have to worry about bombing, just laugh about it.

The problem with lying about something to boost your confidence is that you don't actually have confidence in that thing. Which is better? Say that you have almost no experience with women (with real confidence) or lie by omission (with fake confidence)?

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why do you have to say anything about your in/experience to your date at all??

id say you shouldnt say anything!! be yourslef, full of confidence and game the pants off her by being funny and interesting and you should not go anywhere near the topic of how many girls you have or havne dated!!

READ THIS :


I remember back in the days while I was a sales man , and I use to read so many self improvement books on sales, and public speaking, and human relationship.

From one book that I read it said something really really intersting, caught my attention for awhile:


Be honest, and let your nervousness out. What it mean is that when ever you are speaking to someone, or audience, and you are so so so neervous the best way to cure that is to let them knowing it.

Basically fear is a felling that trapped inside our body , everyone have fear. So if you just can let that felling out of your body , therefore the fear will be gone......

So what you do is that whenever you are nervouse to speak , let the person know that you are nervous to speak , and FOLLOW UP WITH WHY YOU ARE BEHAVING THE WAY YOU ARE .

Belive it or not people will be really really supportive and apprecaite for you to confess. .. And afterwards you will fell more easier to conversate or to present yourself without been nervous.



MAGIC J.

I don't feel that this topic comes up to often when on a date. Why bring it up if it might work in a bad way for you? If you act like you've been on a lot of dates, chances are that she won't ask because she doesn't really want to know. Or maybe the other way around, I don't know. Noone's asked me this far anyway, and I'm not really, really experienced.

Honesty is best. If you lie, you will have to remember that you lied and be a consistant liar from then on. If you are honest, you are confident about what you say and sound sincere.

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