Hi there, first proper post here and I just wondering what advice you guys can give me.
Last night I was in a nightclub and kiss closed and number closed this girl. I asked her if she was going out the next day after leaving the club and said I would give her a text, now I text her earlier on today and she hasnt text back I know its only been a day lol just wondering if I have been blown off.I dont really know whats best to do as I dont want to seem needy and bombard her with texts lol. For the record I felt she was really into me at the club aswell so was surprised she didnt text back. Look forward to your opinion guys

Man, I wish I knew. I number closed a girl two days ago who seemed into me as well and I had to text her like 5 times to get 2 responses. My last text was totally AFC... If you find out an answer let me know.

Don't text what you can say on the phone. Don't say on the phone what you can say in person. Don't say in person what you can sub communicate.

Do you reckon phoning is a good way to do it ? I've been put off phoning girls in the past as I felt it would seem I was being pushy however Im willing to try it really wanted to see this girl again lol

I'm not saying never to text. Texting is a great way to send simple messages to people without having to go through any conversational sequences, which saves time and is usually appreciated by both parties. Also, if you text someone, you can assume that they probably got the message instantly, as opposed to leaving a voice mail which may or may not be checked for a long time. You can also avoid a lot of the insecurity and second guessing that can come from not having your phone calls answered.

However, though all this stuff is great, I personally think that the whole texting back and forth game should be avoided. If you want to move forward, you shouldn't waste time in moving to a more communicative medium.

I would go in with this mindset: I've sent the text. She has gotten the message. I am coming from a mindset of abundance and not scarcity. I will give her time to respond, and if she doesn't respond, I will call and leave a message. If she still doesn't respond, I will accept it and move on to other things.

What did you text her? There are certain things you can and cannot do it a text if you got her number at a bar. Tell me what you texted and tell me a little bit about your guys convo at the bar. You needed to text her something that reminded her of what you guys talked about and make it into kind of a joke. Your first step should of picked up where your conversation left off. You need her to feel comfortable again just like she was at the bar. And since your texting her you cant see her expressions or body language. You never know if shes in a bad mood or a bad day. but if you already texted her you know she got it. give it 24 hours and if she hasnt said anything back you can text something again but you have to be careful about what you say. let me know

Im new to the game and I've been searching this txt game thread loads... txting is fairly big here in ireland... Ive tryed different approaches in the txt game with a few different HBs....

Heres what Ive found... Do not and I repeat do not use txts as your main communication.. Try to get away from them asap and get to ringing the girl and talking over the phone.

If you want to use txts SEARCH THIS FORUM for some fun ways to use them. Be different than 99.9% of guys..Stay away from the..How r u? What r u doing? type txts because they are really boring.. If you keep them fun and interesting you will stand out a bit more.

If your looking for her attention send 1.....2 at max.
Think about what your saying before you press send!
Take a min to really read what the girls saying..sometimes you look back at her replies and you miss out on some of the information shes giving because your in such a hurry to txt back! Just relax. Feed off the information shes giving you and use it to your advantage... C&F DLV and so on.. Keep em fun and try to leave her thinking a bit... Also set your txts up so that she will be the last to txt!..You will sleep better..Let her do all the worrying

Heres a little trick I use..say the girl does not respond to your txt?
If she replies back two days later..dont txt her for two days!!
It sounds a bit childish but trust me you will notice a difference in her response speed

This week a HB8 sent me a txt by "mistake" (ment to be for her friend) at 2300 just to get a response from me because I had been so lazy in replying to her txts 2 days later I replied...

(ME) Hey silly head u sent me a txt by mistake... sorry I am only getting round to it now....

(HB8) Did I? Im sorry hope I didnt wake u.. How r u?? Guess what? Im going out in (my location) next week

(ME) (later that evening) Really? What makes you think im gona be there..

Her reply to this is something special....

Ok I think this is my first bit of advice so hope it helps! Cheers RC.

thanks for the replies guys, Eaza I sent "hey there x, hows you doing? did you have a good night last night" bit ashamed of it now lol, although i was expecting a fast response from her and work it from there. Do you reckon texting something like, " thanks so much for the text back btw " also when I was with her I actually made a joke about it being her real number think I should use something like that in the text ? In the bar we just chatted about random stuff, I was also teasing her at not bringing her id with her and she had to talk the bouncers into letting her in lol.

Solid advice...I always try to embed something in the text that warrants a reply. Time of day is also idea to take into account. I like the late afternoon text when you know shes bored at work. Usually gets a response instantly.

Happy Hunting

Ok guys thought of something to text her back " Hey, I think you need to get your phone checked out btw, your texts havent been sending " or something along those lines. What do you guys think ?

I'm sorry... that will look very AFC and desperate. Wait 3 days... if she doesnt text you back, send her something that relates to the convo you guys had AND DHV, which is what you really need. Otherwise, I dont know how to salvage this...

thats desperate afc mate. seriosuly lose the initiative there.

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ok I've not sent it . . thankfully after the feedback recieved

Anyone any lines I could use ?

Alright man honestly if she didn't lose her phone or somehow the text got lost in the information super highway, there is something you did wrong the night before and she is no longer interested. That is the simplest solution to this problem and you can try a text related to conversation that you had with her (make sure you post it here first so it gets approval), but if she doesn't respond then just move on.