About 2 months ago i got into an LTR with this fantastic girl, we get on really well and when i first saw her i knew i wanted her, she stands out in the crowd. Problem is that since joining my school she has been under a lot of stress and has put on weight meaning she is less hot than she could be. She knows this, and is quite insecure about it. What exactly could i do to help her a)get over the insecurity b)actually help her achieve her potential?

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You should go to the gym and invite her along. By far the best way.

EXACTLY! and just let her know how beautiful she is (help her insecurity a bit)

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Every newb at rethorics know this is a FAT LIE !

Compliments from strangers: high inpact
From friends: low
Insults from strangers: low
Friends: high

Make some false accounts on facebook and compliment her ;'D.

I also agree on this gym thing. Go there, and invite her to come with you. Otherwise you could do some "what are your goals, how to archive them"-thing

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just tell her hey either you go to the gym or ill find some one new if she cares she will go to the gym.

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I think that would be a little on the extreme side.

LOL

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I have the same issue, my girlfriend looks great, but I can tell she is adding a winter weight that in a few pounds will go from a sexy ass and big boobs to a saggy figure. The problem is, I'm in wonderful shape, I lift 4 times a week and everyday my body gets harder, fitter, and stronger. I'd invite her to the gym, but when I go to they gym I workout, it's a place of zen for me. No where I want to be with her. She has mentioned her "summer body" a few times, without being a dick how to I tell tis skank to whip it into shape?

maybe I'll just play "new workout plan" by Kanye West alot hahaha

this is a good thread. in a past relationship the way i dealt with this was by getting on her case about it for "health" reasons. i was afc so i don't necessarily reccomend doing it like that. it worked, but i don't think it was the right thing to do. being like that caused more problems than it solved, and i am not proud of the person i was back then.

maybe try to spark a jealousy fuse by commenting on how sexy you think (some celebrity)'s figure is. i think her issue is motivation, and there are definately ways of dealing with that. its probably an even better idea to explain to her how going to the gym makes you feel better before you even start looking better. this should motivate her to at least start going.

I had this same issue with an ex gf of mine several months back. I didn't want to come off as too crude...so I basically told her how motivated I was in keeping MYSELF healthy (working out, eating healthy), but how NICE it would be to have her participate along with me.

Working out with a partner can be pretty damn fun, really good to up the sexual chemistry between u too, and keepin eachother nice n sexy for eachother.

read these words very carefully .. stand infron of a mirror and practice it atleast 50 times . "get your bitch ass to the gym RIGHT NOW YOU FAT BITCH . right now or else i am going to leave you and spread the pictures you sent me last week online" following with it .

"you look great . compliment this time. and slowly tell her to start going to gym more often. HUG"

now you probably thinking this guy is out of his mind . here is the thinking behind it .. after you insult her .. she will be shocked, sad and then you can give her the message .

so when you are insulting her in her mind she ewould be going like ' i dont want this to happen , i dont want him leaving me, god this is so embarassing i wish he would just stop ... please god make him stop"


after you stop . and give her second message . in her head she would be going like " thank you god , that was embarrassing i wouldnt want this to be happening again .. i better do what he says "

you dont have to go overboard like i am telling you.. but if you want results happening. DO IT.

keep the rep points coming . thank you .

that's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard... don't insult her like that. either spark some envy or jelousy in her or be nice about it. u call a girl fat, prepare urself to be castrated..

ugh boys. I am glad I am here to step in and save the day lol.

I think the worst thing you can do is to be nasty/threaten to leave her for another girl/make her jealous. Its going to only cause her more stress (which is gonna make her want to eat more) and lower her self esteem (which will cause even more relationship problems). Not good.

The best way to handle it would be to say something like:

"We should go to the gym/out for a run TOGETHER"

or

"the best way to handle stress is to exercise. Maybe you would feel a lot better if you exercised"

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Not a PUA just a girl offering my opinions/advice

I'm a rare guy, I like my chicks better with meat on their bones. I'd just massage those extra pounds and make it sexual. Anyone else agree with me?

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Once thing i plan on trying is explaining to her how i lost a ton of weight myself and explain how i couldn't have done it without a companion at the time my best friend and that its easier to do it with a budy and that i want to get to a certain weight and how i want her to be my buddy.