Hey all..I have been gaming this HB I met off face book got her num and been chating a little while... she flakes out a lot and tonight i been txting her... nothing too much..Im trying to get a night out with the girl so I slipped in a little bet..

I made up a bet saying next time your out in (local club)I prob wont be there but.. I bet you I can get you a drink or get ur fav song playing..If i win I get what I want..deal?

I knew she would be wanting to know what it is I want so I played around with that..If I said I wanted to take her out or go to a fun place I know she would have flaked so I told her..next time im out we gota meet up!

Ok it ended with a txt sayin..

(HB) LOL yup I do think too much and we'll see the next time im in (club) wont be for a while

I havent replyed to this one... not the ans I was looking for but its a lot better than being told no I guess.

If she does go for it..im gona be there and have someone bring her up a glass of water for the laugh...

What do you guys think about her reply? and my approach?

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Back, starting over as of 2012.

Problem with online game is it's more prone to flake. I've had some troubles with this in the past. The best way is to go for something that isn't able to be flaked easily, interesting to her, and costs you or her something.

An example would be a movie or concert she really wants to see and buying tickets in advance. That way, she basically has to come or else either you or her loses money (preferably her). Problem with movies and concerts is that you won't be able to talk and get to know each other well. So using the movies and concerts as bait, when you meet up say, "Wow, I'm starving. Let's go grab something to eat." or something to that effect.

Thanks guys... Cant figure her out.. Am I being played?.... When I first number closed I asked her out...no joy.... kept in touch tryed to call on 3 occasions... no joy... she'll reply to some txts and then wont reply to any... then after a while out of the blue..she'll txt me saying sorry been busy bla bla..how u doing??.... dunno why she keeps intouch??

Im suffering from a case of oneitis with this girl.

I been gaming another (HB) shes really interested in me but im not interested due to this oneitis.

Im stuck in a rut...can someone give some advice?..thanks

obviously a pua should never have oneitus you shouldn't let your problem with one hb affect your game with the next. but as for the girl I'd try to make her commit to something and if she breaks the commitment act mad and offended that she would be so bold to waste you a (high value guy's) time and that its unacceptable if she's into you at all you she will be apologetic and attempt to make it up to you but if she isn't definitely move to the next

You have to demonstrate higher value. Calling her many times and making plans with her that end in a flake is a DLV. She could be busy, that can easily happen, however, more than twice is not acceptable. Make sure you call the shots and make sure she knows if she cancels, it's on her and you won't be free for awhile.

One-itis can't be cured just by what I say online, but try to widen your choices and it'll be easier. Get out and meet new people. Sorry to say, it's obvious you aren't her top priority or she would go out of her way to meet you. If I were you, I'd move on, but it's up to you. Good luck!

Yeah mate, i've been there before and when girls flake like that, and you have to do her a favour to get what you want... is that what you want the relationship to be like?

trust me drop her and move on, it may seem hard but dont make the mistake i did and wait around for 6 months hot and cold. I've dropped my girl about 3 weeks ago and I feel like a free man, she just rang me a min ago and I didnt pick it up.

She'll come running if shes interested, if not... her loss, your an amazing guy

Guys I took your advice onboard...left a message on her face book.
I was totally honest with her on how I was feeling and I guess its showed some (DHV) really helped me with my one itis...

I got a txt from her. Its the biggest txt I have ever got..u should see the size of it... Shes pretty much trying to defend herself..she states how shes not a attention seeker and its upset her I think this way..she also states that she has been txting me more than her best friend...

I also told her im not trying to get into her pants..If I wanted too I would be there allready... This has shocked her also.. she says Im really shocked u thought I thought u wanted more than friendship..

Ok in the end of this huge txt she says that I dont know her and if thats the way I think then fine.

I havent replyed to this....I think Ive opened a huge can of worms here...

What should I do now??

Hmm this could be tricky..

Im also wondering what you mean by flaking, Did she say she
would see if she can, then say she couldnt.. Or did she say she
would, and then cancel? Bcuz it might just be me but I really
wouldnt consider the first one flaking (mabey im just an optimist)

Anyways, it sound like your message started out great and you
really got your point across. You prbly demonstrated alot of DHV.
From the sound of her message you hurt her, but thats not
necessarily a bad thing. You showed her your not into games.

I think you should right her back, and seem some simpethitic
not much, but kinda show you might understand (Ya Know). Tell
you MIGHT, i stress MIGHT of judged her to soon, and you are willing
to give her another chance. Make the time in place meet up, *BANG*
Shes hooked (haha or something similar to that is what Im thinking)

Ok I wrote back after some time.... Just said as you said...

(ME) Hey I might have judged u a bit too soon..Ask yourself why I think this way? I'll let u think about that for a while...

HB txts back within a few mins...

(HB) I have no idea where this is coming from (me)

Ok I dont plan on replying to this and I think I should freeze her for the week? This HB agrees to calls yet does not ans the calls... turned down my latest offer... does not reply to some of my txts..leaves me hanging for days
then comes back...

I tell her in a (DHV) way that im not going to take this s***
She sends me a huge txt maybe trying to prove her value to me?

Now she doesnt know where all this is coming from?

Can someone help me out pls??..Im completely confused now...
Thanks

Ok guys.... Im really stuck now....

I sent her a txt last night staing that "at this stage we should be able to call each other up..even meet up when we are both out"

I didnt say anymore and hoped she would understand that I am p'd off because we are not doin this and I am not going to put up with any more of her flakes...

I think she has got the message that Im no longer interested in her...

I got a huge txt from her today.. In it she mentions that she doesnt think we are on the same page? and that she is getting enough pressure and hassle from her ex..she doesnt need her friends ganging up on her..
She cant deal with anything else and to be honest she wouldnt let some of her best friends talk to her like this..then ends the txt with I need some space and my heads done in...

To me she has completly ignored why this all started in the first place...
Me not playing her game and calling her out on her flakes.

Now she has turned it around to her wanting space? even tho I am the one who told her in so many words that im not interested.

Can someone pls give me some advice on all this because I am totally lost?

Also theres a christmass card on its way to her..sent it during the week!!

Help!

Hmmm... Honestly, theres prbly a way to turn this around
and im sure some of the better PUAs on here can tell you

BUT IMO

You should just move on

You should just learn from this whole experience and analyze what you have done wrong and right to get this far. Then just move on to the next level of the game so you don't get stuck with her so called personal problems. Don't fall for that.

Hey thanks for the advice. You guys are right.. I been hung up on all this for too long. I do find it hard to drop it because I do feel I have a connection but I think its because I have been PUA'd by her so im going to use this whole experience as my starting block and I have learned from it.

I sent her my last msg and in it I stated that she gave me all these indications of interest. And I followed up on them.. U shut me down. I also told her that im not going to be put in the same sentence as her ex. I also told her she cant use her probs as a excuse for her actions..and I cant explain myself any more...Then told her Im going to leave u for a while to think about all this...

I left it open as I dont believe in burning my bridges.

What ever comes out of this will come out of it and I'll take it from there...
With a new attitude.... I'll make an offer only twice..If you dont accept...
Im gone!!

Thanks you have all been a great help...

Happy holidays...great time for F closing!