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PostPosted: Tue Dec 09, 2008 7:10 pm 
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hey all.
im pretty new to all this but have been working hard at the gym, body language, dress ect and i guess its starting to show. some thing new happened to me today. it ended well but i think it could of been lucky.
yesterday i was at a training thing at work today and arrived late. as i walked in ii oticed hb8 out of the corner of my eye but didnt look properly untill 2 hours into the very boring training. when i did she was staring straight at me. FUCK ME! i tryed to stay cool and forced myself not to look back for another 10 mins and shes staring straight at me. ive heard something about over gaming somewhere before and i worried i might fuck it up i must admit i no idea what to do. for the rest of the day about once an hour i looked at her and smiled then looked away.
today the same thing happened again. the guy next to me kept saying "shes really hot for you". she came and sat next to me on my break andstarted talking so we chatted a bit and i told her i was dissapointed she didnt ask for my number the day befor (a bit too cocky??) anyway she giggled and asked for my number. Result!
Shes only 18 and i think a bit of a slut. with a bit of encouragement shes texting, telling me what shes want to do to me on thursday if i meet her. obiously as shes a slut ther is no real glory (apart from a bit of confidence boost)
i suppose my questions is - did i handle it right? and what is the right way to handle a girls advances. also, playing the eyes across the room game, whats the right way to do it?


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Hey fogg! Im new to this aswell. But i have read a guide about proper eye contact. This guide is for when you start looking at a girl. But i think its the same thing when she starts looking. the guide is as followed:

The Rules:
This is for sets that you haven’t approached yet

1.You start looking into her eyes at a distance of 10 meters. If you start looking at her before you reach that distance she might consider you a staring AFC, which is not good for your calibration.

2.Look at that what you like. There is absolutely nothing wrong with looking at a person you find attractive. You don’t have to excuse yourself for doing so. Just look, and even if she asks why you are looking at her, a simple “I do find you attractive” is enough. It takes balls to say that, but it really is that way. She will actually like you even more for looking at her when you do not need an excuse for looking at her.

3.Just look into one eye. This way you eliminate any fidgety movements with your eyes which would make you look nervous. You want to have a steady, calm and relaxed EC. Stop looking at her boobs or butt. Just concentrate on the eye. It doesn’t matter which eye, but you should never change during one EC. You might change if she looks away, but I wouldn’t do that either. It makes you look nervous. Some people say that the left eye is connected with the emotional side of her body, whether you believe it or not you might want to do that. Better safe than sorry. Don’t mess around with AFC techniques like looking at the point between her eyes and crap like that. Just look right into one eye. You are the man, leader of the tribe. Her ass is your property and you are allowed to look at her.

4.Do not – whatever happens – look away. Just stay there. If people walk between the two of you or if you walk and things break your EC, keep on looking as if you still could see her. Most of the times she will look away in the beginning but you look as long as it takes for her to look away.

5.Stick with your first choice. No switching. Not even if she is fucking ugly and next to her is a HB10. You decide once and stick with your choice until your choice looks away. Only if she looks away first you are allowed to change the person.

6.You might want to approach her when she walks past you. There is a point about one or one and a half meters in front of you. If a girl is behind this point she is more likely to continue walking then to stop and talk to you. So you do have to approach her before she reaches that point. If you, forever what reasons don’t approach her you may turn your head 20°s, which is not much. But trust me 20° are enough. Look up rule 8 concerning such situations.

7.If she looks away and you consider her as attractive you just leave your eyes where they are. When you start with this technique only a few will look again. Later it’s about 80% of them. After the second look it is time to approach, after that her attraction decreases every second.

8.Whatever you do, she does it first. With the exception of the escalation – which would be an approach. If you do not approach her then the rule of energy comes into action. The rule of energy is that you use less energy than she does, for whatever you do. You blink less, move your hands less and slower, etc. If she walks past you stick with a maximum head turning of 20°s. If she turns her head more than that you might turn it as well. If she opens your body towards you, you might go for that as well. And if that is the case you really should consider to approach her as she is definitely into you.

9.Have a self confident BL and look like a HSE guy. Chest to the front, shoulders leaning slightly backwards, and just relax. Let go of every AA and just look and feel comfortable with that. You are not needy as your EC is not sexual. Just have an EC that tells her that you might be interested in her personality. This is important only for beginners. In the mastery you will definitely look sexual sometimes.

10.Do not the f*ck look away! JUST DON’T! Consider it a game. You look away - you loose. You wait for her to look away you win and get the girl – if you approach her at some point. If you look away first, you may never ever look again. The game is lost. If you decide to look again the only outcome would be that you look away again before she does. You lowered your Value in looking away first. So keep yourself a small amount of dignity and do not look again. You might want to punish yourself if you look away before she does. Tell yourself what a looser you are. It was just a few seconds of looking at something and you fucked up. Next time you will not – trust me.


I think its good that you told her that she should have come to you earlier. You have the right to be a bit cocky and throw her a neg when she is staring at you like that :).

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Thats awesome! really helpful, appretiate it mate.


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Shes only 18 and i think a bit of a slut. with a bit of encouragement shes texting, telling me what shes want to do to me on thursday if i meet her. obiously as shes a slut ther is no real glory (apart from a bit of confidence boost)
BEEP BEEP

INNER GAME PROBLEM DETECTED

Don't judge girls for wanting or having sex. This is what causes LMR and lack of compliance. The girl will be trying to figure out how much resistance she has to give you so that you won't think she's a slut when you eventually do hook up. The more judgmental she perceives you as being, the more resistance you'll get.

It doesn't even matter if you don't talk about this. You'll still subcommunicate it.

"Glory?" Are you in this to impress people or to get laid? Just fuck the girl, man. Let go of that ego and follow your core. Is she hot? Do you want to fuck her? Then do it.

Anyway, as for girls putting moves on you... ENCOURAGE IT. If a girl does something you like, such as eye-fucking you, approaching you, kinoing you, SOIing, whatever, reward her for that shit. Let her know that it's okay to do it. Reward her with kino of your own, making out with her, and fucking her.

There is no technique that you need to employ here. Just pull the girl to your place and rail her. This doesn't have to be hard.


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some girls are just more aggressive than others. a lot of the pickup tactics that are needed are for guys that dont have a lot going for them physically. a lot of times girls will go on a physical attraction just for sex, it happens a lot. does it matter in the end? no you just have it easier than a lot of other guys out there. i tend to have that problem as well(if you can call it a problem) girls tend to be physically attracted to me a lot more than i realize, and i end up DHVing myself TOO high, or performing too many negs and blowing sets because they think im out of their league. find your zone and stick to it, im still learning mine. ive seen myself do HORRIBLE in a set but still get by because they are attracted to me physically, and i pull out because i wanna step up my PUA game, not get a girl on looks.

the best advice i can give in your story, is in the future, if you notice a girl looking at you and its not some glance around the room(huge IOI) you MUST go in immediately if you arent currently doing something. Its termed the 3 second rule. what happens is, if you wait too long, they assume you dont have the balls to talk to them, and then if you DO start a convo, you gotta play damage control. its just easier to go ahead and go in quick rather than start behind and catch up.


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BEEP BEEP

INNER GAME PROBLEM DETECTED
true, im working on it tho :oops:
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The more judgmental she perceives you as being, the more resistance you'll get.

It doesn't even matter if you don't talk about this. You'll still subcommunicate it.
good point.
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"Glory?" Are you in this to impress people or to get laid?
get laid! bad choice of words.

cheers for you help mate!


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Go for it but make sure you wear a condom.
If she is that loose than better protect yourself. Slut or not I guess that's just good advice for all.

The plus side is that you know she is in shape. have fun!


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