It is the one part of a relationship that's as inevitable as it is terrifying. It is the single most monumentally defining moment in any romantic interaction since the beginning of time. Books have been written on it. Sadly comedic movies starring Ben Stiller have been made about it. It's what every man fears most: meeting her parents.

But "meeting her makers" doesn't have to go down like that. I personally have always loved meeting my girls' parents because it's just another opportunity to further embed myself in her life (and have another person close to her rooting for me if things ever go sour), and as a result I have always been the guy they want her to get back with after we break up. Follow these steps and you can be sure she'll never hear the end of it from her parents if she ever lets you go.

1) Do some research. Ask your girlfriend what her parents' interests are and then educate yourself about them ahead of time. You don't have to become an expert in a week by any means, but at least be able to speak intelligently on subjects you know interest them. This way when her dad is cleaning his guns in the living room when you arrive you'll be able to say, "Hey cool .357, is it double-action or single?" confidently instead of being intimidated.

2) A little politeness goes a long way. Her parents are secretly terrified she'll bring home some brutish ape who flicks ashes on their carpet and eats dinner with his fingers. Lay their fears to rest by maintaining an air of casual elegance about yourself. You don't have to go overboard, but be conscious of your table manners particularly. If you're eating at their place, always try to do your dishes for yourself (a casual, "If my mom caught me letting you do this she'd kill me," works wonders). If you're eating out, insist on paying the bill, eventually concede and cover the tip.

3) Group theory still applies. Instead of demonstrating higher value, however, you want to demonstrate that you have their daughter's best interests at heart. Mystery's classic, "She and I are pretty fond of each other, I'd like to see more of her. Is that OK with you guys?" is golden in this situation. Also, tease her with them as you would in any other set, especially if they have a pre-existing family joke, as most families do.

4) Reverse roles. A lot of guys are afraid the interaction will turn into an interrogation on behalf of her parents. Mitigate this concern by turning the tables on them: early on, start asking them questions. "You two seem really happy, how did you guys meet?" "What was it like when you met her parents?" etc. etc.

5) Talk about your future with passion and enthusiasm. Afraid your job at Sam's Club might make her parents think of you in less-than-favorable terms? Then shift the focus to that business you want to open, that skill you're on a quest to master, that class you're going to take on that subject you're interested in. Show that you have the potential to achieve a great future--and that you want to include their daughter in it-- and they'll forgive your present-day shortcomings. To put it differently: if you had tickets to a plane leaving for the Bahamas, but you had to go to Seattle to board the plane, would you really care about having to go to Seattle? Didn't think so.

Got any other tips for seducing the parents? Post them here!

Your boy,
870

well put

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nice post though i think most parents will love you
if you show them that you are chilled out in life and are an intellectual person. If you play it right you will never even have to mention where you work and the won't even notice.

Or you can just charm the hell out of them.

very awesome 870!

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+ 1 very well put. the only thing that concerns me with all this is, i would be very careful not to look like an ass kiss because that can hurt you as well. finding the line and not crossing it would be a very wise idea as well

Good point, Kegan. Obviously the rules of non-supplication apply to your relationship with her parents just as much as they apply to your relationship with her. Or put more simply: be a man!

I just make sure to have a confident attitude going into any conversation with a girl's parent (s). I also asked a question every now and then. It proves that you are actually listening to them and are interested. But i'm sure whoever is reading this got that idea already but sometimes its good just being riminded of those silly basic things.

i find it helps to stay alpha and be a PUA.

it sounds crazy, but being too AFC around them will actually make them more suspicious. if you act PUA and use a lil C&F to charm the family, it will go a long way in getting them to like and trust you. your confidence will be observed as trust-worthyness.

i even do this when talking to the siblings. i say things like "don't worry i'll make sure she stays outa trouble "

also doing all this will maintain attraction switches with your GF. she will see how bold you are in such an intimidating circumstance, and she will love you for it.

One thing i want to point out is that when meeting the parents more often such as picking her up and having short interactions. Playfully compliment her mother, "I actually came to see you Miss, ???" insert cheeky smile. Anything like that is quite flattering, quite flirty and shows a sense of humor, with the father try to always have something to ask him or talk to him about, maybe something to continue upon from last time. if you share any common athletic activities invite him out sometimes, forge a friendship outside the fact that you are dating his daughter.

Something i learned from being european

i do not agree with putting moves on the mother like this. bad idea bro.

Not at all, as long as you do it in a playful manner it works wonders. I've done it since i started dating at the age of like 14 and have always done it, never any problems. Always have positive responses as long as you don't come off creepy or anything, takes some practice i get if you arent the most charismatic person i guess.

One of my friend said its a good idea to avoid the topics like religion and politics. Talk about anything but these 2 and you shall remain safe. Religion and politics can bring out range of emotions and differences, which can be best left alone at that moment.

Telling someone not to talk about politics or religion is like telling them not to talk about child porn or your shower fungus.

Here's a good one I've used in the past...


I was meeting this chick's parents for the first time, and she had two older brothers, and no sisters.... as she was about to introduce me to her mom I said, "Ariana..... you didn't tell me you had an older sister?!"



Worked like a charm =)