I think the phrase "im trying so hard not to kiss you" is a great line and after talking with my girl friends yesterday about kissing I got the impression that most afc's dont actually say anything before kissing they just try and go for it at a specefic point such as when the conversation ends.

However my question is what are the bad responses to the phrase "im trying so hard not to kiss you"? because in the past i havn't really listened to the response i've just done it and it worked.

I figured a bad response is the girl saying nothing it all but I am guessing there must be others.

Good responses are things like "i didnt say you couldnt" or like things like "well kiss me then"

A bad response would be:

"You keep trying...because it's not going to happen."

Most of the time you will know if you have enough attraction/comfort built to pull this off and you can feel your way through it.

Use the "force" Luke...

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I don't have fancy verbal transitions into makeouts. I just wait until the girl is all emotional and stuff. Then I just say "hey, c'mere" and make out with her.

And don't worry about getting "rejected" for the kiss. That doesn't mean "no, not now, not ever," it means "not yet."

That would be pretty bad.

I like Mystery's "Would you like to kiss me?".
If she says "yes", kiss her.

If she says "Maybe", "Why?", "What do you mean" or "I dunno" it means she is shy about it. Reply with a "Let's find out..." and kiss.

If she says no, reply, "Well I didn't say you could, it just looked like you had something on your mind."

If it's a "not yet" or "not here" it means there is some other issue like friends are nearby. Say, "I understand" and continue gaming her.

If it's a complete curve ball (not any of these responses), then respond with a, "That's not what I asked..." and smile.

Stunt101 I like the Mystery Kiss Gambit as well, although it is used a whole lot since it's publicity on the VH1 show. Still, it is something to keep in mind to try.

Making moves is better than not making moves.

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another thing to keep in mind is that there is no rule that says that you have to warn your target before going in for the kiss.
sometimes there's just a moment in which you dont have to play silly buggers and just pull the trigger (and it happens more often than you'd think, especially if you're new to this)

but yes, mystery's gambit is good even though it's becoming fairly popular.

Excellent Point! More often than not you just feel the vibe that it's on and seize the moment for the kiss.

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