Look over this and tell me if I did anything wrong. I don't think I did - but it doesn't make sense. Is she fucking with me or what?
So, I responded as a last message:
Did I scare her off or what? She wanted to hang out - did I DHV to much, or what? Was she doing a Compliance Test or...

Thanks for the help guys!

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Straight up... girls don't want to talk about Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder. Even if you are writing a book on it, don't just bring it up like that. It looks like your bragging, and it's not even that good of a bragging story : /.

Based on my readings and understanding (not my experience mind you lol) you went afc and jumped the gun by asking for her # so quick when she dangled a carrot in front of you.

Remember, you are the prize.. make her chase you! Right? Instead of asking for her # so quick.. be like "it would be nice to hang out some time, but I'd like to get to know you a little better first.. to make sure your not some crazy stalker! "

Something like that I think!

And ya the book story would lose her attention quickly.

Let me break it to you how she read it:
Basically you come off like a stalker. You shouldn't ask for a number that quick, or give out your number that quick. You two don't even know each other!

btw, is she black or does she just talk black? "chillin? baby boy? crib?" major turn off. But whatever floats your boat... Using words like impulsivity and abnormalities makes me think you're a lot smarter than her though... maybe set your standards a bit higher? lol

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Before, she told me we should go dancing sometime. I wrote to her, "Whoa! I just don't go hang out with just anyone...how do I know you're not some crazy stalker!" Shw wrote back, "Whoa! Now you're sounding like a weirdo -- You're not the only one have rules, you know?"

So, over period of time - I wrote her back with this (not included in the transcript on this post!)
This is when she wrote back. However, the book is very interesting and to some that don't know what FASD is - I suggust you looking it up on the web---maybe try Google! Don't knock me down for talking to a girl what I'm passionate about.

Plus, this of this way - has she ever done a seminar\conference about something that was important to change people's lives and prevent this disease in the later generations?

So in PatrickLH words that my book will turn off any girl. I don't think so. I think they'll be impressed that someone has the courage to write something that they want to change about how Mothers drink during pregancy. But then again, if she drunk while Pregnant it could cause her to feel uncomfortable to say at least.

About the Stalker - my defination of a Stalker would mean constanly messaging the person, constantly annoying the hell out of them. That's a stalker - someone that creeps them out to the point of unbearable discomfort.

Now, on the intelligent side - I do agree, I may be smarter than this girl - however, she can learn alot from me.

However, there's people that is smarter than me of course and it's frustrating at times when I talk to them and they act like I'm an idiot.

Also, to note - I don't wanna sound arrogent because she's not smart or anything. You know - the "I'm too good for you!" kinda shit. I don't wanna be like that because I know how it feels.

This one girl whcih is into Demonology but is a Catholic (Not really into Bible Humpers) but - I'm able to communicate fine with her because

1) Not interested in her because she's Catholic and WIccan's don't really agree with Catholic views.

2) However, we do have an intellectual conversation but when she expresses her interested in her study of Demonlogy - I don't really like talking about it. But however, what I do notice I'm doing with her is I'm engaging her into a conversation by having her talk. With other girls that I like or am interested in - I can't do that.

So, I still have some work to do in calibrating how to make the perfect match.

So, when I read this post - I noticed I started to get pissed off then I walked away, smoked and listened to something besides "I'm gonna slit your throat" kinda music.

I'm still kinda frustrated because I didn't expect to get blasted with people thinking they know me and they don't. Not to add, that I wanted someone that knows what they're talking about besides crap and saying, "You're an AFC, blah blah I'm on a period."

So, those that responded and gave me the right way of giving constructive critism - thank you! Those are the ones that are to help those in need, not someone that is going to put them down because of maybe mistakes. Because everyone makes mistakes and this is why we're on the forum - to help those in need to grow and become better individuals.

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Sorry man, didn't mean to be an asshole.

It's good to be passionate about something, my suggestion would be to play up on the emotion, not the logic. You were talking to her like you would talk to a buddy. For instance - how does FASD make you FEEL? How does knowing a mother drinking while pregnant make you FEEL? Girls don't connect with logic. (I'd bet romance novels outsell self help books 10:1.)

All of your replies convey way too much interest, and I'm not sure you recognize that. For instance, the last reply:

"Thanks! If you decide to hang out sometime send me a text. 1-XXX-XXX-XXXX Until then, we'll chat some more! "

I think you intended that to mean, "I'm not really interested in you, but if you want to hang out with me then give me a call"

But you're giving her power... if "YOU" decide... this isn't a choice. She WANTS you! Even if she doesn't know it yet!

Contrast that with a reply like this:
"Thanks! I'm busy most of the week but we should hang out. Until then, you can pester me all you want, but I've got to get to work."

This implies: you're busy (you have a life) and she's pestering you (you're not interested in a "little sister")....

feel free to PM me if you've got questions. I've got a lot of online experience under my belt. Too much, probably.

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I didnt read all of your posts (to much reading ha)
I read the convo tho...
The problem is, you hooked with your book and tried
to get her number at the sametime.
You should of told her about the book she would of been
like wow omg your so cool.
Then you go with the number... You got her off topic
and not thinking about wanting to hangout then random
"can i have your number" and shes like wtf...

My advise back then go for it again when you know shell say yes

Sorry guys - but the conversation is destroyed. No recovery but oh well.

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Stealth one of the things I learned from online game and even just game in general is that its best not to talk about heavy topics like FASD. Its okay to mention them. But not to talk about them unless the girl actually asks you about it but even then keep it light and short and move on. If the girl asks you more about the topic then give them more details.

dude i dont get it. is that only a part of the conversation?? if not..isnt it a little too early to gett her no the 2nd msg?? think about it. if u are a busy high status guy, who gets a lot of girls....u know where i am going with it already right. there is no qualification, neither a negg nor a push! its all pull pull pull. she got u by the 2nd msg. u were easy. i am not talking about it. everyone already did.

Try continue the convo a lil longer and always take the next reply as a chance to find out something about her. then u can say something like

"u are danger zone!! thats cute. imagine how much havck we could create!! txt me" and dont give her ur no. wait for her to ask for it. then u go like "i need FOOD. i am going to raid my fridge. ow i didnt? here, xxx-xxx-xxxx."

if she doesn't ask, then do something like 2 to 3 msg everyday and shell be hooked in no time.

BTW, dont worry about the story. i thought it was fine. u dont have to feel bad for getting carried away...in fact that is it. add after the 'essay' "damn! i got carried away. i guess passion Can't be contained."

P.S:DONT WRITE AN ESSAY. stick to >5 lines.

Sup guys, So by what ive read she only gave you one IOI and then you skipped all A3 and went for a close. The key is to make her work to get your attention. You came off way too easy. Plus they way she was texting you should have done a playfull Neg about how she talks like a hood rat. Peace.

i get mixed results so i try to limit the advice i give. right now iv been trying to talk on myspace like girls talk.

for instance like somebody said above, you accepted the lets hang out thing right away, but i cant really blame you because it was the second time it was offered and u dont want to seem like u have no backbone...

its hard online to be the one bringing the fun in the sense of changing the venue and getting closes. closing in general is hard on myspace. I guess not hard if you know what you're doing, but maybe not intuitive?