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| NimbusS | PostPosted: Sun Dec 07, 2008 11:56 am | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Sun Nov 30, 2008 2:38 pm Posts: 4 | | Firstly i'd like to say that i didnt do anything spectacular last night, it was all about breaking down mental barriers for me so getting over Approach Anxiety was the goal for the night.
First bar i was in i started getting really nervous and could physically feel my heart pounding against my chest with the thought that i was going to have to approach someone! i built up the courage although probably looked like a complete AFC while doing it. i walked up to a 2 set, hb 7 and an fugly friend. My intention was just to actually communicate with them so i asked them if they knew the area well and could recommend a good club to go to , they were really sweet and i chatted to them for 5 mins eventually rolling off with 'i may see you later , have a good night'
once the first approach was out of the way felt so much better.
next bar i walked up to another 2 set with another simple opener being, could you recommend this club ive heard so much about, they said "ya its really good" etc then eventually started asking if i was trying to pick them up, i should have thrown a neg in there but didnt think to so i just replied "you shouldnt be so harsh to guys that try to approach you, it takes a lot of courage" and they both chuckled, eventually found out they both had boyfriends and left it like that.
next bar there were a set of 3 girls on the door and asked them if they were bouncers, they jokingly said they were and then i asked them if they could sort out a discussion me and a friend were having with regard to the 'my little pony' routine. they responded so well to it and eventually joined me and my friend for about an hour after. it was good fun chatting to them and really could have number closed but didnt as the girl i liked lived a long way away.
after this i made a few other approaches to 2 sets in the last bar we were in and kept the conversation flowing.
to me i accomplished a lot by getting over the AA. in one night i did more approaching than i have done in the last few years! i guess the next stage is to get number closes and build more attraction.
Nim
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| Ray Charles | PostPosted: Sun Dec 07, 2008 12:25 pm | |
| Offline | | Member of MPUA Forum |  | Joined: Tue Dec 02, 2008 12:44 pm Posts: 129 Website: http://www.myspace.com/sixleggedsalamander Location: Adelaide, Australia | | Bravo man, bravo. I know how hard it is to get over approcah anxiety and that night you proved that you had balls and could use them! Next time you try to get over AA try and #close, even if you never call her again it still helps build confidence.
I wish you luck with your next sarge!
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| wisconsinman | PostPosted: Sun Dec 07, 2008 1:34 pm | |
| Offline | | Member of MPUA Forum | Joined: Wed Dec 03, 2008 12:52 am Posts: 105 | | Same man grats, last night was also my first time using game it worked out great though. Congrats!
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