Ever since i got beaten up and before that but not as bad i have been unable to approach a girl. I know no one whose AA is this bad! Please, any advise would be great

If you truly have a real approach anxiety and not just apprehension to the point where you physically freeze I would suggest seeing a psychology or psychiatrist. Sure we can give you tips to try to break you out of it, but if it's this bad you might need some real help.

For something to get your started. You can try doing the AFC Adam Lyons warmups. Simply, go up to 4-5 girls and compliment them on their looks then walk away. Simple huh? This will warm you up, give you good feedback, and help you to be able to actually to really open a set later on.

Other ideas would be things like getting use to walking up to random strangers asking them for the time and making small talk, then slowly as you feel a little more comfortable starting conversations.

Good Luck

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Ever since you gotten beaten up? Did you get beaten up in front of alot of people or somthing? R u afraid every knows about it? more detail on how that plays into please.

I'll echo the statement above. Start off small. But forget entirely about anything to do with game. So I wouldn't mention looks or bars or clubs

Just go up to 4-5 sets and say "Sorry guys, do you know the time?. Say Thanks and walk off. Another super low pressure is "Do you know where X is" (make sure X is something people are likely to know the answer to. HMV/Starbucks/Train Station. Also don't be standing right by it when you ask.

I would say aim to do 4-5 sets one day. Then go to another town maybe a week later(if possible) and aim to do 10 sets.

Also don't just aim for girl sets, ask groups of guys too. So long as you approach relatively direct (don't EVER walk up behind people) and bugger off afterwards no ones going to kick off.

I'm curious though, did the assault happen with regards to a potential gaming of a girl?

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There are only two real reasons not to approach a girl.

1. You're not attracted to her and have no interest in being with her.

2. You know for 100% fact that she is already taken.


Anything else is bullshit. Get that into your head, cos life is too short. Hell, I still get scared after all these years but I do it anyway because I know I can do it and I don't give a shit whether she's into me or not... getting your ass over there and saying hi is the hardest part, everything else is cake. You know this.

Honestly bro Get a job in retail! It perfect because you learn hot to talk to women, tell them stories "selling the product" and they dont feel like your a threat since you work at the store....this will help build confidence forsure! It also forces you to talk to people because you dont have a choice when its your job.

Oh a tip If you get a job in retail....Retail is a great way to try out openers with out feeling like a creep. You can say things like "Wow did you hear about...." or "Doesint the weather suck" and then have a quick convo with them....Retail is alot like pick up! In sales your need to build confort before asking for the sale, and in pick up you need to build confort before geting the number.

unless your legs were broken in this fight then you can physically approach. I even know cripples who pick up so many chicks it makes me look like a loser. Physically you can approach, the problem is a mental one.

If you see a psychologist they will likely make you do:

1. cognitive behavior therapy: this involves changing the way you think about different things that stress you and cause anxiety

2. exposure therapy: making you do the things that stress you in small baby steps

3. refer you to a psychiatrist for drugs

Unless you have panic attacks then you probably don't need drugs. You problems are perfectly treatable. Do they suck? Yes But believe me you will get better if you just start to believe in yourself and what you can do.

One thing that helped me get over aa was to focus on the physical part of the approach. Instead of thinking about what you are going to say to the girl immediately walk towards her and focus on the sound your feet make when they hit the ground. Focus on all the different smells you can smell. See all the different and interesting things around you, and feel the air on your skin. With all those things to think about first of all your mind will be totally occupied, and second of all you will have plenty of things to talk about once you finally reach the girl. Focus on long deep breaths. Also every day I want you to visualize yourself successfully approaching a girl and her loving you for it. Studies show that the mind cannot differentiate from something you actually see and something you imagine. Both have the same effects on the brain, therefore if you mentally rehearse it successfully in your head enough you will feel as if you've actually done it when you go approach her. Any free time I want you to do this. I also want you to imagine what the worst possible thing that could happen is. Maybe she will throw penguins and gallons of insult juice at you. Imagine this every day, and attempt the approach every day.

Above all I believe in you, you are human and therefore have the same potential to do something as anyone else.
Have fun my friend.

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I couldnt agree with this more. U hit the nail on the head bro, a job in retail forces you to come out of your shell and does wonders for your social skills. Great advice.