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You don't actually have to embrace rejection, you just have to understand some things.
1. Rejection is inevitable. Somewhere, at some stage, a woman is going to reject you. So many factors are out of your control, all you can do is lay your cards on the table and see what happens. You cannot prevent every woman you meet from tuning you away, and you know this. So why does it bother you so much?
Ego. Pride. (bullshit)
You don't want women taking an adverse reaction to you. You don't want people around you to think you're a failure. You don't want your friends to make fun of you. You don't want her to think badly of you and tell her friends. Your fear of this is so great that in your mind it's better to avoid even the slightest chance of this happening... and that is what causes AA in the first place. If you say you don't care about any of that stuff, and you still can't approach, you need to stop kidding yourself right now.
Why do you care so much about the opinions of other people? Why do you let them dictate your decisions when their opinions don't matter and have no effect on you? Do you realise how ridiculous that is? If you know who you are, and you're happy in yourself, then you'll realise what I'm on about here. Do what you want because it makes you happy and because you want to do it. Fuck other people, they don't define you. I know I'm not a loser, and I know I'm good with women because of my experiences, and nomatter how much other people say otherwise it won't change a god damn thing. Rejection happens, it's not personal. Like I said before, there are so many things which are out of your control when you approach a woman:
She isn't looking for anyone right now.
She just got out of an abusive relationship.
She is having family problems.
She is having a bad day.
She is batshit crazy.
She is a lesbian.
She is waiting on her boyfriend to show up.
She loves her boyfriend and would genuinely never cheat.
And on and on and on... you have no control over these things. All you can really do is find out if she's into you, and you can only do that if you approach her. A quick word on boyfriends; they don't lie about that shit. If a girl is into you, she will not play the boyfriend card even if she does have one. Until the morning after, that is. They do this so the responsibility falls on your shoulders and they don't have to feel bad about it.
2. Rejection is necessary. Not every woman is suited to you, and if any of the above things factor into the equation then you're really better off not getting to know her at this stage in time.
Read that over and over until it clicks. The girl is doing you a favour by rejecting you, for crying out loud. I mean it, get this into your head and really realise it.
When you first see a woman the only thing you know about her, the only reason you approach her in the first place, is because she is attractive. That's it. You don't know shit about her... so why do you care if she likes you or not anyway? It'd be different if it was a girl you'd known for years and you were worried about fucking up the friendship or something, but this is a random girl you're never gonna see ever again. Why do you care? Oh that's right, it's your ego again. This comes back to accepting that not every woman is gonna be into you. I will say this again - all you can do is approach her and find out if she is or not. If you don't approach, you'll never know. What have you got to lose exactly? Stop worrying about your little ego, your pride being hurt. Shit happens, be strong. I approach every woman in the exact same way. I treat them all the same, and I've been turned down by some really attractive girls... other girls who were even better looking (and had nicer personalities) were seriously into me. It's not the approach, it's the girl.
And here's an interesting thing. Why are AFC's frustrated? Because they don't approach... not because they don't know what they're doing. If an average guy who had no idea what he was doing approached as many girls as I do, he would still get the same results... believe that. The only thing that really sets us apart from them is that we're actually approaching girls. You have all this knowledge, all this confidence, and you're not doing anything with it because of your silly little ego and the fear of your pride being hurt. Be a man, grow some balls and get your ass over there to talk to her.
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