Whats up guys? Here's the deal. I met this chick about 2 years ago (she goes to my college). Shes an easy 9 and I've always had sort of a thing for her. She was clearly interested in me, all kinds of IOI's, touching etc. I was young and stupid and I blew it and ended up in the friend zone. I knew I was there and just kind of accepted it and kept her as a friend. We talked ocassionaly and hung out once in a while but nothing serious. She went abroad for a semester and I had no contact with her at all. She just recently got back and got out of a long relationship. She started calling me a lot, texting, and wanting to hang out. I've been hanging out with her pretty frequently for the past 3 months. It seems like sometimes she'll call and text me a lot for a week, and then the next week she wont even respond if I text her. That has me very confused. I'm not being needy at all, I don't run to her every call, and I'm not showering her with compliments and all like I used to when I was young and stupid. I'm a firm believer that once your in the friend zone you're there for good so I never even thought about it, I was just trying to keep her as a friend which was fine. So the other night I was real drunk at a bar by school and her two friends (who I don't really know that well) come up to me. They pretty much just flat out told me how much they loved me, how I was such a good guy, how I should be with this girl I've been talking to, how we're perfect for each other, she's always talking about me and that she likes me and always has. That got me real confused. I mean I've had so many opportunities with this girl. I've always had great kino (hand-holding, touching of the back etc. I've slept in the same bed with her like 20-30 times. When that happens though it always seems like she just wants me to hold her and she falls asleep right away. I've never had a strong game when it comes to closing women. For me, girls usually have to make a move on me if anything is going to happen. Basically I'm a pussy when it comes down to it. I know this girl won't make a move for me (from prior experience). I just don't know how to approach the situation. Should I say her friends told me she likes me? Should I just go in to kiss her? Is there any good solid routines anyone can help me with? If you respond please tell me as much as you can and be sincere. Thanks guys.

It seems you genuinly have some form of attraction (unless her friends lied which I doubt) so now it's up to you to dictate what you want. I'm guessing you want more then just a friendship so that means having the ability to sexually escalate. There's no simple answer or slick routine for this....you simply have to man up. Know she likes you, know she wants you, and enjoy the process of escalating without overthinking it to much in your head. For example next time you're lying in bed with her just start kissing her shoulder, then neck, then lips as long as you sense she's comfortable. Or if you're out with her at some point during a high note say "OMG you're adorable!" place both hands on her cheeks and give her a kiss. This is a classic fear of success and the only thing to do is to pull the trigger.

Hope this helps,

Psych

Thanks man I appreciate the help. I like your idea about kissing her shoulder then neck. I was thinking if i should lead up to by saying something like "You know what girls find irresistible?" and when she says what kiss her shoulder then work my way up so I don't just start kissing her outta nowhere. Let me know what you think.