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I've always had great luck with girls but since getting out of a really long term relationship I'm a bit rusty. I have study material from mystery, and matador. So I know a lot of the terminology and how it applies.
So here is my situation. There is a girl from my work, I know its not the best scenario but I'm her boss, I'm also 7yrs older than her. The last few days at work I've noticed we have been extremely flirty which each other, I have gotten several IOI's from her. This past week end while she was on vacation we texted back and fourth for 2 days, when she got home I asked for her screen name to be settle for AIM. We then talked for 3 hours straight, and it was a great conversation, because of all her IOI's I started to come on stronger just with settle complements "I'm not sure why I find you so interesting, ect..." I suggested we hang out, she said sure. She even stayed on to talking to me having to wake up in a few hours, and sign right off when I said I had to go (which I didn't but felt it would look better if I ended the convo) my last remark was that I really like talking to her she agreed her too.
SOO long story short, 3 days later (which I haven't heard form her since) we worked again together it felt awkward, she seemed extremely quiet around me compared to normal. I tried to talk to her her and there but she didn't say much and looked nervous some times. Eventually It just started pissing me off since it almost seemed like she was avoiding talking to me, so I just went back to the NEG's but they were very direct. I acted like I had no interest in her, I'm not sure if that was a mistaking but being the nice guy I could tell doesn't work.
My question is from those experienced, what is really going on here potentially? Is there is a sign she is scared off, I know shes shy so maybe she likes me but just is extra nervous after such a strong conversation? Its been a really upsetting day for me, I was really excited about this girl.
Ok bro, lets see here. This is kinda tricking, but i think you may have come off as to direct. I understand she was flirting with you too, but when you started to come on stronger, that may be the problem. U should have let her do more of the coming on. Yes, you do want to show interest in her if she shows it in you. BUT, u have to remember that you are the prize. When you started coming on to her so strong, that was you qualifying for her, and essentially submitting to her. You want her to qualify for you. Flirt and make comments to her, but never seem too needy. I think thats the problem. Once she started flirting with you you just went all out and that may have scared her off a bit. Remember, shes got to win you over.
P.S. Speaking from experience you may want to re think dating a co worker, especially if your her superior. I know if automatically gives your more power then her and makes you more desirable. But you could probably lose your job for that. I dont know if your work has fraterzation rules, but check into that. Also, sounds like you may have or are starting to develop alittle bit of oneitis for this chick. Nip that in the bud bro, thats only gonna hurt your chances. When you focus on one girl and really fixate yourself on her, you subconsciously show it. Good luck. Let me know if this helps or ya need more advice.
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