Been dating this girl for a few weeks now and my friends and I went to a bbq at her place. At the end of the night we slept in the same bed and things got a bit hot and heavy. I was REALLY drunk and went down on her for ages, i went to take off my pants and mount her and she said she wasnt ready.
So obviously i stopped and said i understood but i think i may also have said some really inappropriate things. Something along the lines of "u had no problem with me going down on u for 20mins". (cringe)
I tried to explain myself but I think I was just getting deeper into a hole. I remember trying to explain that i wasnt sorry for wanting to have sex with her but that i understood. (cringe again)
The next morning we woke up and everything seemed cooled and i apologized for what had happened. To be honest Im very embarrassed and ashamed at the way I acted. Im not a sleazy guy and i really like this girl. But now im scared i've fucked things up. I was far to forward and moved far to quickly. We had gotten intimate before this night, she was basically dry humping me and kissing. I spoke to her before, (a few days later) apologized again but this time she seemed more pissed off. She said she was just in a quiet mood.
Any advice on recovering from this, as I really like this girl. Should i bring it up again or just not say anything...? Im worried she wont want to be alone with me now

wow dude you did a number on that one lol. i would buy her something nice or ask her to go out on a nice expensive date and dont mention it again. or you you could bring it up again but apologize like you did in your post because it looked sincere and it made sense

I'm going to disagree here^^.. It's not something I'd apologize again about. You apologized plenty already. You got a little into it so what.. You respect her.. that's where you should've left it without an apology.

You don't owe her a favor because you went down on her and then tried more.

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Kegan, when getting a woman a gift, you are giving it to them because YOU want to give them a gift. To "reward" (for the lack of a better term) their existence and awesomeness. NEVER EVER get someone a gift in hoping it will escalate the relationship or fix something. That not only builds a bad stigma for every time you give a gift, but it also creates the appearance of you trying to buy their time. Don't do it.


Stems:

You already apologized. In fact, you have apologized too much. You have been trying to recover, when in fact it should have just been an issue that would have cooled down over time.

You kept bringing it up, and instead of giving her the space to think about it and get over it, you pushed her to the point where it has become a big deal (if it is a big deal to you, it will become a big deal to her).

You were drunk, drunk people do stupid things. But now it is something that has lost the situational relevancy - you've made it so that being drunk has nothing to do with it.

What I would recommend is dropping it all together!

Play it cool a little bit. Act coy, and a little distant. You can still go out and hang out, but don't make any sexual advances. Back off on escalation. Make sure you DO kino and continue to increase her buying temperature, but don't push it beyond that. She has to feel comfortable again - and the best way to do that is to just drop her off at the end of an awesome night. After a couple more "dates" that you take her out on and don't try to do 'close' at the end of the night, she will begin to wonder why.

So you have curiosity, comfort (you havn't made advances outside of innocent flirting), and sexual attraction (since you have kino'd and increased BT) She will start wanting to pick things back up.

Just be careful, if you go too heavy on the comfort and not enough on the kino/seduction, she will quickly throw you into the LJBF.

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