Hey guys. I've noticed something. These days I've tried applying things like cocky and funny but I find I'm getting negative responses. I had to step back and I have to admit I sound really arrogant. I'm wondering if the right way to go about this is to actually be subtle about it. Today I was out with some friends and I felt like I was trying too hard to make jokes or whatever. In fact, it might have come off that way to the others as well. Couldn't we just be funny and not cocky?

Another thing I noticed is how little disqualification is mentioned. I was trying to flirt with this one girl through Facebook and she said "dont worry m not interested in you", that's when I pulled out the "I hope you didn't think I was actually interested in you" and she totally changed her tune. Shouldn't this be mentioned more? I feel like I should add disqualification for every conversation I make with a HB.

"dont worry m not interested in you", that's when I pulled out the "I hope you didn't think I was actually interested in you" and she totally changed her tune.

Love it.

You have to feel the girl out when trying to implement cocky. You can saturate some girls with cocky and get a positive response, others need very little to get the point.

I use cocky to 'set the girl straight' if she's being snotty or bratty (which is most of the time), but I do it playfully, that's the secret.

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene

If you feel like you're trying to hard.. you probably are. It just isn't you at the moment and it's coming across as fake like you said. Cocky funny is great if it fits your personality. For me it's awesome for my other buddy.. yeah he just fucks it up.

What you talked about with disqualifying her.. that's still cocky just not to the extent you're thinking. It shows you've still got your confidence and your really 'dont' care about her'. It's putting you above her saying, "whoa prom queen, It's not me who's interested."

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Calibrate guys! It is a balance between beeing too needy and arrogant...

If you have established that you are the dominant leader then do not push it!

If George Clooney starts negging his fans he would be an asshole. If you do, its not such a big deal!

Thing is I make cocky and funny jokes and negs all the time. But I find the best feedback comes from when I'm subtle about it. Like if I just slipped the joke in or implied it instead of reciting it like a poem. I probably looked loud and brash too but I was trying to dominate the conversations because it's apparently alpha male. Didn't feel right somehow. How do you dominate conversations if you're not loud?

My normal self would usually keep quiet until I'm spoken to or I really have something to say. Then it comes out naturally and I think I can capture people's attention. But when others are speaking and I just take over and talk about fishing it doesn't feel natural.