Sup guys, ok im gonna keep this kinda short then i would like to hear what your opinion is. Alot of guys here ask how to get over an X, in my opinion if you truely loved her you will never get over it completely. I have an X from 3 years ago and i still think of her all the time.... I guess my main point is that it can and has affected all of my relationships. The X made it so I couldnt trust wemon anymore . So dont let it ruin your chance with a good women cause you are afraid of getting hurt. Some say you just have go get laid 10 or more times by different wemon andu will get over it. I dont beleive this cause I tried it. Just give it time and give other females chance to close you. I think to get over it take your time and find a new person to give yourheart to. Wow that was alot longer than i thought. What do you guys think?

imo i think that if you truly want to be over someone you can be. you literally have to delete them from your life. every single piece of them you hold onto you will love so push it all far away and you'll make it through. another problem i think guys have with getting over someone is they get to a point to where all they do is compare every girl to the one they are trying to get over. big mistake. if you can refrain from this, then the fucking other girls to help move on will work. but if you just compare these 10 girls to the one who your trying to be over then you may as well shoot yourself in the foot.... can i get an a'men!? lol

this is what worked for me:

pretend she's dead


this works the best because you can get over her, while not feeling bad for thinking about her. if you accept that fact that she's gone, and you can't get her back, then it will help you get over her, and not feel weird when you think about her. I did this with my ex, and it worked like a charm. when i thought about her it wasn't frustrating anymore because i just accepted the fact that its over and i can't get her back (because i'm pretending she's dead). the benefit to this strategy is you can still think about her and appreciate what you had, without kicking yourself and feeling frustrated.

sometimes the best thing to do is snip the relationship and move on.

I personally believe you will never get over someone that you love. You just wait for enough time to pass and the memory isn't as strong; therefore doesn't impact you enough.

Or you find a bunch of activities and hobbies to fill your life with so you don't have time to think about here; eventually the memory becomes less strong, and doesn't impact you as much.

Or you (and this is what the basis of the 10 girl rule is) have sex with 10 women so that by the time all your social interactions have taken place, you have buried the thought of the other person; the memory becomes less strong, and it doesn't impact you as much.

No matter what you do, you will always love them--and I am sure whenever you do think of them you will become nostalgic. It is just a matter of the mood that nostalgia puts you in. Over time or through time you can alter that mood...not the memory.

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I like the "pretend she's dead" technique above because that does give you a chance to appreciate it while forgetting it.

Something I mentioned on another thread was deleting her from facebook is a must. Seeing status updates and pictures (sometimes with other guys) and wall posts keeps you thinking about what she is doing.

What jlizzle said is a definite helper.

Also just keep yourself busy by doing different things. I found out that whenever I became bored or had nothing to do I would sit and think about past relationships. So just try to stay busy so you won't have any time to think about the ex.

I totally agree. It's been a while and I have a new girlfriend that I love, but I still think about my ex here and there. It's been a while and I'm not upset over it or anything, but I still think about her. She was a big part of my life, how could I forget?

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Without a doubt the dead to me approach is the way to go. I had just gotten out of a LDR/LTR (Long term relationship) and that idea helped the most.

I went out with my boys last weekend and they were all amazed at my transformation. I've been reading things and watching videos and it just clicked. They even mentioned that I talked to a girl who is hard to talk to (she wasn't hard to talk to at all....she just gets bored easily). Then the next day she be-friended me on facebook...I was impressed with my game.