Ok so I live with my room mate who happens to be a total slob. He never cleans up after himself and his room smells like cigarettes and worst of all the living room and kitchen, which are the 2 rooms everyone sees first when they come in, are usually pretty messy when I come home.

Personally I don't believe I should be cleaning up after a grown adult so there for I don't.

Now my room is usually pretty clean and I hope this doesn't sound too girlie but I usually burn scented oils in here cause well; I like the smell. I have guitars hanging on my walls, my laundry is all in baskets (not thrown all over the floor like my room mate) and its just generally clean.

So here is my question:

Does this living situation work ad a DHV for me because my personal space is kept up? or does it work as a DLV for obvious reasons?

I would say it's a DLV because you haven't killed your room mate and/or told them to pull their shit together.

IMHO, the only time a chick's photographic memory is going to click is the second after the door is opened. That's why the 60" plasma has to be on the opposite wall... haha.. j/k

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"A man is but the product of his thoughts, what he thinks, he becomes." - Mohandas Gandhi

I was in this situation last summer. If managed correctly, this situation won't become a DLV. Here's what I did:

When you talk to her you should really exaggerate how dirty it is, how it is your roommate's mess, how you keep your area clean, how you plan to move out soon, and how you're never going to let her come over.

Later on when you "reluctantly" bring her over, she will be surprised at how the rest of the house is not as bad as you said it was, but will be pleased that your room actually is as clean as you said.

Now since the rest of the house is a mess, this gives you an excuse to hang out mostly in your room. A TV and DVD player will give you even more of an excuse.

Even though it is your roommate's mess, do take some initiative in cleaning, particularly in cleaning the restroom. A dirty restroom will be a DLV regardless of excuses.