Alright, I've got the very biggest challenge I'm sure any of you have faced. And I don't want to hear 'move on' and shit, I'm gonna at least make a go for it. I've been in love with this girl for a long time. I'm gonna make this kinda short here...We met, and it was instant attraction. We have been in love for years. She moved from one boyfriend to another, still crying to me saying she wanted to be my girlfriend, how I was her world...I was STILL TOO FUCKING SHY TO MAKE A MOVE ON IT! For fucks sake...if it's been put in front all up there for anyone, it's been all put out there for me. She has been in my room asking for sex, begging and crying for sex. I pretended like I didn't hear her...because I was too shy. Well, over the summer I became much more sexually active, started socializing and getting my confidence up. But now that I've got my confidence up, she's engaged and waiting on a baby. She's told me, when she found out she was pregnant 'We're having a little 'K.I.D' (insert my real name there). I was like...heh...great. I was fucking crushed; my heart was broken beyond anything you could possibly imagine. It was the very worse of heartbreakings that I'm sure anyone could ever face; to not get your chance and see other men who don't love her a fraction of how much you love her, to see them get their chance. We both believe we are soul mates, made for each other. Her baby is due on my 21st birthday. We have so much in common it's insane to think about. We were best friends, and inseperable for 2 solid years. We WERE ALWAYS together; I Was often with her much more than her boyfriend. She always kisses me and tells me she loves me with all her heart, and that I'm still her world even though for the past months we haven't seen each other.

You see, when I found out she was pregnant I told her it was too much pain to bear; to see her starting a family with another man. she broke down, dropped to her knees and my feet grabbing very tightly to my lower legs, begging and uncontrollably sobbing, saying please don't do this to me. I told her I couldn't do it.

So recently, I call her up and say hey, how's it going etc etc. I told her I'd like to meet her, so I drove up to the store she was shopping in and met her. She's big and pregnant for sure...I still have uncontrollable feelings for her. Then, when she was paying for everything she said 'Oh...I'm engaged. I probably forgot to tell you'. As she said I probably forgot to tell you, teared welled up in her eyes and I thought she was going to start crying. I gave her a kiss, said I loved her and left. Apparently she did cry, because her friend called me and bitched me out like no other. WHY YOU HAVE TO MAKE HER CRY AND EMBARRASS HERSELF IN THE STORE. etc etc. I said I didn't mean to, and I love that girl more than anyone else. I JUST KNOW IT. I know her like the back of my hand; she's just getting married to have a stable relationship with her upcoming baby, BUT I KNOW I can treat her and her kid to a much better life than her and her boyfriend/(husband?) can. Financially, emotionally, the whole 9 yards. I seriously feel that she is the one for her, and I wouldn't mind being with one woman for the rest of my life if it were her.

I called her last week, a little teary eyed and told her that I loved her with all my heart, and that there's nothing more that I would LOVE than to start to work on a relationship with you and your daughter. I told her I'd love her daughter with all my heart, as much as I loved her. She said 'YES!' very quickly, and said that if I ever made her cry or let her down again it was over. BUT, I don't know if she was reffering to a friendship or more. This is an extreme hardcore uphill battle, one that the most skilled of pick up artists might find to be an insane/impossible challenge. But, for true love, for this love and what I feel, I'd literally be willing to go to the ends of the earth.

Now that I type all this out, I'm not even really sure it belongs here since it's not directly about approaching a stranger and picking her up, but I'll throw it out there anyways. I know pick up artists must fall in love and shit too, but I'll throw it out there in the hopes that maybe someone could help me out with this.

well if she "loves" you she shouldnt be in an engagement thats really weird..

so another thing is that she might be feeling that since shes pregnant she has to be with the guy that got her pregnant..
and in most cases young couple who get pregnant tend to go straight to the..
" we have to get married since we got a kid"

so find out what she really wants because she doesnt seem to know what she wants right now...

best of luck to you dude..

Man i dont want to tell you to move on, but damn. It seems like you missed your boat man. I know the truth hurts. I have had a similar situation happened to me. It sucks and is unbearable, but you have to get thru. Best of luck if you do still pursue it, but that might just lead to more heartbreak. Hope it works out for ya.

Hey K.ID. wow...tough tough situation....my advise since i was in a kinda similar situation with a girl once. We had been boyfriend and girlfriend for 3 years and we broke up and well i was curshed cuz i thought i loved this girl and she was the one (Im 22)...so after a couple months later we tried to work things out we were having sex but we were never officially together and all of a sudden out of the blue she said we should just be friends instead and told me its better if we stop talking....once again i was crushed...but since then i have been polishing my game and going out with other chicks to keep my mind of her and well so far its worked! So i guess what im saying is just try and move on man....you have your whole lfe ahead of you your only 21!!! You have so much going for you at this stage of your life, i think if you get back with this girl itll be problematic because shes going to have a kid thats not yours and is engaged to a guy who im sure will want to see both the chick and his child so that will be super fuken unconfortable unless you and her runaway together...but yea K.I.D. just keep your head up man things will get better for you i gurantee it

I really sympathize with you here. There was a girl who I was very close with. She got pregnant (twice) and married the father. We were VERY close in high school, but I didn't have the balls to make the moves.
I actually made a post about it "my dream catcher failed..." feel free to read it. This community really did help me get it out of my system.

ADVICE: The truth hurts. This is a relationship that has a microscopic chance of working. (I have been through this too)

1) It is better for the kid to know its real father. (I know... you would be the better father, wouldn't you?)
2) She is desperate, confused, imbalanced hormones, etc. Who ever said it before was right on point. "She doesn't know what she wants."
3) If this relationship works: Down the road, months or years, you will have regrets. I can't tell you what they are. I chose not to take that path.

When your true love comes, this will make her all the better.

It seems like you're very emotionally involved, so this might be difficult, but you need to detach yourself, at least temporarily. Take a step back and evaluate the situation. Ask yourself if you're really willing to commit yourself to her. No offense, but being "too shy" seems like a bullshit excuse. What has really kept you from getting with her? And why are you willing to get with her now, if you weren't willing to get with her before? If by detaching yourself from your feelings, you can answer all these questions to your satisfaction, and you still want to go for it.... then good on you, if not, you might want to seek a cure for your 'one-itis'.

Hey bro whats up.
First of all man, Im not going to give you my advice on what you should do, you know what you need to do. There's nothing anyone can say that will change whats going on.

But i am going to say that you should just take a break... That place that you've always wanted to go to vacation to, GO! Take time to be alone and think! Do you want to pursue, I know you dont want to hear this and that alot of other guys are saying it here, but there are SO many wonderful girls out there man.

I dont know firsthand but it seems like this girl has chosen already, know that everything happens for a reason.

Best of luck to ya bro

Nino

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