hey guys when im talking to a girl ive noticed that i try to stear the conversation to what i want to talk aout,its like me and the girl is talking and im dangling the converation in front of her waiting for a response to carry on with what i want to talk aoutut with out the response i feel i dont want to carry on because i feel like im trying to hard y talking to much is anyone understanding this its like im chucking out my bait waiting for her to hook it....but after im just looking to carry on what i want to talk about ,can anyone see anything that im doing rong here?comment??

That is a terribly constructed post which is incredibly hard to read and understand. If you take a little more time using correct punctuation, spell check, and a quick revision, then more people will be willing to respond to your question.

As for the question I think you asked "why isn't the girl interested when I am talking about myself/something I do." Women can't necessarily relate to a lot of the things that men love. For example if you tried to talk to her about how you caught a really big trout last weekend, she probably won't care. If you talk about things that she can relate to, or at least something that is spiritual or mysterious, you will get better reactions.

Women are sensitive and interested in feelings, so if you really want to talk about something she isn't interested in but that you love, then first of all you have to make yourself go into the state that you want her to go into. If you want her to be completely fascinated, then you have to tell her the story as if you are completely fascinated. This should definitely not be done in the way where you are seeking approval or validation for her, in fact you are telling the story for your self simply because how amazing it is. Also, you can't go into depth over the logistics or the physicality of what your experience was. You have to emphasize the feelings you were experiencing at the time. You want her to be able to relate, and if you are emphasizing feelings, then you can talk about playing rugby if you want to... She will find an emotional connection.

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Don't know that i should say much as i am a fellow newbie, but one thing is definately keep the story/idea you want to convey pretty short unless you have already got some decent emotional response from your flirting.

If you havent successfully taken the piss out of her, and then start a monologue that lasts more than 30 seconds she is basically going to ignore you... you haven't displayed any value that would make her want to pay attention to you for that long...

If i have something interesting that i want to talk about... i usually save it a bit until something comes up in the small talk and flirting that i can relate it to and get a response

so true about my terribly constructed post,thanks il keep that i mind both posts have gave me something to think about