So on halloween a coworker of my best friend brought his girlfriend out with us. I ran game on her that night and got her number even though she had a bf, and we've texted off and on since then. A few days ago i found out he dumped her, and so i shot her a phone call to see how she was doing since we havent talked lately. She told me they broke up, and i acted somewhat surprised lol, but then told her we should get together to get her mind off things.

So today i went over to her place and she decided to take me for a ride in her car ( i was on my motorcycle and didnt have another helmet) so we kind of just aimlessly drove around and talked. I would say we def. built up rapport and I used DHV spikes to my advantage and she was laughing a lot and there was def something in her eyes when we kept catching eyes.

After i left she texted me saying she was really gald i came by etc etc .


ANYWAYS my question is how do i go about this? I havent ran into a situation where a girl is striaght out of a relationship, and i want to know how to handle the 'i'm not ready to jump into anything' or 'i just need time' if i get that line. what should i prepare for, and how do i counter it? thanks!

Well, it should be easy enough. I would reckon the girl is looking for a rebound..

So just do your thing and invite her over, or invite yourself over. an f-close should be easy. Dont expect much afterwards though. maybe a few other times..

thats what i figured. i'll keep you guys updated

sorry to highjack your thread though but i may seem to be in a similar situation with him.


I know this girl who also has broken up with her boyfriend and is already in her second (out of three ) stage in her recovery. She's rather cool about things and we chat very regularly and hang out often enough to know much about each other. All in all, i think its progressing well.

Or at least thats what i think.


The other day, she has told me that she's open to casual dating. Nothing heavy, nothing serious. But she's open to meeting more ppl. At this point of time, she isnt ready for anything at all and wishes to complete her stages in recovery. She was with her ex for approx 11/2 before the breakup.

I'm really into this girl. It could be the one and I dont want to screw things up. We are quite friendly with each other and of course the usual negging and teasing of each other but my concern is... Will we degenerate into the Lets just be friends stage forever?

What steps do you guys recommend i do to keep things alive and in hope that it will work out to be a happily-ever-after event? Should i tell her that i really quite like her? Should i still be kind to her and friendly or should i try to put in a push-pull event? Are casual dinners a go or would i be better off keeping things at a distance in case she slips into the comfort zone because i think it will get way to difficult to change the situation if she says to just remain as friends.

thanks for any replies guys!

Easyfill,
here my advise to you:

1st- very imprtnt- that you stop looking at her like "The One." I used to do this when i really liked a girl, and it almost always screws u up, bc it makes you subconsciously needy and too obtainable, nervous, etc. You should know by now that people like and are attracted to what they Cannot have. Act like you have some interest in her but youre an alpha male who has other prospects. So if it falls through so what. youre the fucking man, her loss. this attitude will show through when you believe it and she will notice, but dont overdo it into the cocky ass hole realm.
2nd- to stay out the friend zone- Initiate lots of kino. Still always having lots of fun, but touchy feely fun is much better. It raises body temp and the level of attraction, while also making you seem confident and socially aware of when its comfortable to touch her and escalate. Research and practice Kino Escalation Steps.-
3rd- in addition to help u stay out of the friend zone, lead the conversations, not control, but lead to keep a sexual frame, if u dont know what that means look at captain jack's blog. Hes great at explaining the significance of keeping the sexual frame.
4th- DHV
5th- continue to subtly push/pull- verbally and physically
6th- get drunk together

thanks for the reply.

anyway, i think its all gone to shits. She says she's not that interested. More so, she isnt ready to see anyone just yet.


Makes me wonder if i should wait for her or just move on. I know I'm being dragged into one-itis

^ I wouldn't hold your breath because you just said that she said she wasn't interested . There are plenty of other girls out there who are waiting to be met, so why not meet them? Go out and have fun, don't go into one-itis for your own sake, bro.