First of all, my social anxiety only applies to girls I don't know. If I have had any prior conversation with a girl, even if it was just a short intro, then I'm good. Listen to this that happened to me at the Verizon store today.

So I'm there looking at the new Blackberry Storm, (which sucked by the way, the touch screen is sh*t). Anyway, I ask the salesman where I can look at the phone, he points me over to where there are two demos by the wall. I see a very attractive female at one of the phones, and the other phone is about 3 feet away, and not being used. I'm dressed down a bit, havent shaved in a day, but I don't look too bad. I took a shower right before I left, so I know I smell good. I walk over to the phone, and when I get like 3 feet away all the sudden I feel like I'm a creepy mother f'er and she is gonna feel akward as shit when I get over there.

WHAT THE HELL??? I wasn't even planning on hitting on the girl, I just wanted to look at the phone. After I'm there for about 30 seconds she walks away. I don't know if she could sense it or not, I wasnt acting weird, I was just looking at the phone.

But seriously, this is BS! I am a decent looking guy. Better than decent. This is like the feeling I used to get in early high school years when I was fat, had acne, and dressed like a slob. My outer appearance and my inner appearance definately aren't vibing right now.

I just started a new job like 3 weeks ago. A female co-worker has informed me that 4 different girls have asked about my "status" based on looks alone. I try and maintain a sharp appearance at work. (On a side note the bitch wont tell me who asked about me, which would help a lot).

But the moral of the story is, every time I hear stuff like this, I actually get a little more shy around strange women, even though my actual confidence in my appearance increases.

Ok so thats basically it. Any tips for self motivation? I might just start talking to random, non-attractive people on a whim and work myself up.

IMO i think if you want to be comfortable with women, you must first be comfortable with YOURSELF. If you give off that I feel like a loser, im being a stalker vibe they will pick up on this vibe then become uncomfortable.

The motivation i gave myself after seeing some fat guy with a HB7.5 was "hey if this guy who a know looks WORSE than me can get a HB, then why cant I?"

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Don't ever let somebody tell you.. you can't do something. Not even me. All right?

You got a dream.. you gotta protect it. People can't do something themselves, they wanna tell you you can't do it. If you want something, Go get it. Period.

Jesus, people on here know how to screw themselves up.

What you need to do is stop thinking with your dick and stop seeing girls as numbers. Talk to them like people and you will see a world of difference.

Matt

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