Dear Unattained,

Sorry buddy but you cant open anything from cold at this wedding...

There are no cold approaches because its a wedding party that everyone present has been invited to, therefore every person there is somehow indirectly connected even if its just in a “we hang out in similar social circles” kind of way which will make every set you open a warm approach.

The best thing about weddings is that even though you can have two complete strangers meeting for the first time there will be more comfort because you clearly fit in somehow, If there's more comfort people are more open...they want to talk.

Due to these increased levels of comfort and passive social proof you'll find that a simple “hi how are you” will work wonders as the people you talk to will want to convert the passive comfort to a personal one (warm approach)

Be sure to be seen talking to everyone and as usual add value to people by being a fun and friendly guy, if you meet everyone and even start to introduce people your social value will be an immensely powerful attractive trait as you're seen as the guy who breaks the ice for people around him.

AFC Adam,

Dear Johnnyc

It sounds to me like you're sending mixed signals on the one hand you're this CF guy who she likes and seems like he's interested in her but on the other you seem a lil too carefree and she begins to think perhaps that's just the dynamic she has with you even as friends.

The fact that she asked you if it was okay tells us that she's not sure where exactly you stand, initially that's a good thing as it gets her to invest but if it's always like that then sooner or later if the interaction isn't progressing then it stales out and she'll be tempted by others who are progressing intimacy.

If you don't want to end up in the friend zone then you need to step up a gear and start physically escalating otherwise you run the risk of it just being a bit of “harmless flirting” that will never go anywhere.

You've got comfort and attraction, escalating is what you need to focus on.

AFC Adam,

Hey aresh,

hahaha

Buddy thank you so much for the kind words, it really means a lot to me. everyday I remember it was this community that helped me make that change, I am forever in its debt and want to give back as much as I possibly can.

AFC Adam,

Heya Psych, how you doing buddy?

1) Generally speaking social proof from a group of 5's and 6's (dont you dare do less!) is better than being on your own or with a bunch of guys but ideally you want your base sets to be as hot as possible!

a) Your girls should never come out for the hook ups, they should come out to see you, entrouage didnt work because of our “extras” in the clubs; it worked because all the girls loved being out with the guys.

b) Again you dont want to be a random club guy, the second you're seen as that its not a social circle event its some random thing with some random guy which is low value, the trick to entourage was that it was a community of cool people having fun on nights out. the friends of the friend should love you also. game the entire group and be as personal with all of them as possible.

c) Ideally you shouldn't be hitting on the girls who come out with you, you should be hitting on the girls who are at the same venue as you and all your girls. Your entourage should act as much like a base set as possible. as far as jealousy goes it usually stems from treating the girls differently, treat them all the same and if you are going to do anything with any of them make sure you isolate and make it clear that neither of you will say anything.

Hope this helps bro

ps Penny beer wednesdays sounds awesome!

AFC Adam,

Dear File,

Dude honestly i think that you may be looking into things a little too much, i doubt it makes a huge difference and the only way you're going to find out is by talking to her.

so do it and let me know how it goes!:)

AFC Adam,

Hello Adam,
This is Arman , I really appreciate you coming down here and helping us all out thanks on behalf of every guy who layed a tear for a girl.

Im from the Middle East (Specifically Dubai ) and I wish you can come down here and sarge together.

here is my list of questions:

1- I realize you apologize when openin sets now isnt that like a taboo in the community

2- Lately I have refered to your metagame concept and what I do is this : Once I enter a venue I open the first set that comes in my sight , we talk a little have fun exchange names and then I step on the second stone i.e. another set . and so on. But if you get rejected by a set doesnt that lower your social proof in the venue ?



thanks again
Arman

Hello Adam,
This is incredible what you are doing here! I really have great respect for your work here. Honestly, I don't know if I could do what you are doing and it is a big honor for me to be allowed to ask you for your advice.
I started 6 month ago with the game and now, I can say that it is really easy for me to speak with people and having the first conversation flowing. 3 month ago, I went to the USA as an exchange student and I moved from a large city to a village with 1000 people and to a school with 150 students. At first, I could start to speak with everyone easily because of giving them lots of value but I'm living in a really religious area therefore it is very hard for me to fit in their lifestyle. I can't build deep rapport with these people and their lifestyle start to destroy my inner game. I'm like a prison in this area because as an exchange student I'm not allowed to drive a car and I really want to do something for my game in this time.
I want to ask for your advice what I could do to improve my situation. There is nothing to do here therefore people don't go out very often or hang out with each other.

Thank you very much

Cheers for the reply Adam.

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Adam, i stumbled upon ur attraction explained website couple of days ago and..i LOVE you man (no homo)
I was wondering if uve written any books because i really like your attitude towards the game..

take care playboy.. ;P

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Whether you think you can, or whether you think you cant, you are right.
H. Ford

hi

I read a lot, about mystery method, david d... but I have one question, I have afro hair and many girls come to me and touch my hair and say something like cool hair, and then leave... what should I do? How to keep them?

thx

wassup G
i need sum adive on how u remember all thes opneners
thiers soo many that i forget!! help me man
safe
im persian prince u can call me PP
im from london
im 15
thanxz

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i get inside thier head and next thing they know their turning over seeing me in der bed
!! brrrrrrrrrrap!!

Through a mutal friend I met a girl & got word back that she thought I was "cute", so through these friends we set a date up with them at a bar so we could hang out. It was clear it was a date & the word I got was she was excited about going out with me.

Went great & after I asked for her IM which she said she "didn't use much" but the next day she got mine from the friend & was messaging me 1st saying she had a great time, so I certainly took it as she was into me. So I got her number & set up another date which, she wanted to do the same thing, & called her about mid-week just to chat. She also IMed me another time.

Then the friend that set us up tells me she has a boyfriend. They had delibertly not told me because they wanted us to go out. The girl is in college & the relationship is long distance & on the rocks, & he is a real loser who has been introuble with the law & never comes to visit her, & she may see him every 3 weeks if she makes the effort. The girl is great & deserves better so I have no problem trying to get this girl.

The next date I thought went really well until the ride home. On the way back we were in the backseat alone so I'm looking at her trying to get her to look over so I could kiss her, I was obvious & I could sense her getting really nervous & pulling back, & she got quite & wouldn't even look at me stopped holding my arm, so I totally backed off & I didn't try when I walked her to her door either. Which now I don't know if that was the right thing or not plowing in for the kiss, but my interpetitation though was she had mixed feelings & was torn about the boyfriend situation & backing off & I needed to take it slow.

The next day the friend told me she "likes you a lot" but needed some time to think & decide & wants to be more "friendly" right now. Talking with her the 2nd date, I had found out she liked basketball so I had already set up for us to go to a basketball game a couple days later, at that point. I thought about maybe canceling but she IMed me the day before & sounded excited to go, so we did. Had a good time, but it could have been a mistake as there isn't much oppertunity to be romantic at a basketball game & I got the same vibe walking her to her car even if I had tried to kiss her.

So this is where I am at. Seems I have fallen firmly in the friend zone, I haven't heard from her in 4 or 5 days & to make it worse she went home for the holidays where she gets to spend several days with the boyfriend. I need a serious game plan, because there is little time at this point. When she gets back she will be really busy studying for exams & then probably gone for several weeks for christmas.

#1 Should I call her as soon as she gets back into town today or give her space to decide & let her call me? Keeping in mind at this point I'm affraid she might not though having not heard from her while she has been gone, & since she didn't make the effort to come back sooner so we could hang out, when I found out from someone else she could have & had considered coming back it if she "got bored" at home. Then again I think she needed some time to think.

#2 Should I just lay it all out there & be honest about where I stand & push her to make a decision, or should I just be patient & hang in the friendly zone gradually trying to up things?

any advice is welcomed. Thanks.

Im pretty new to the world of PUA's and I have to say that I am blown away by the amount of techniques and tactics that are used and the effectiveness of them. Also, i think all the help you give is amazing, especially doing it for free.
I have a situation with this girl I work with...Not sure what steps to take...We've worked together for a few months now and she is currently in a relationship. Were both 24, but the guy shes dating is much older, kinda dull in my eyes, etc...Shes openly admitted to a mutual colleague that she has a thing for me but i cant seem to get her to take that next step and go out with me due to the fact that shes dating this guy. She gives me tons of IOI's and kino's, carresses my back as she walks by or holds my hand, tells me i look good (when not in work clothes) etc... Im stuck in a little rut though, Cant get over that hump...Do you think i should run some DHV's on her, or BF destroyers....I've tried some destroyers and some worked and seemed to draw her closer but then some were borderlline offensive and backfired...I have expressed SOI's to her but i've kept it light so she knows im interested but she knows i could walk away...

I know that im sitting at a good point with her right now but i dont want her feelings to hit the friend zone....

What are your thoughts? If you need any more info on the situation to help your diagnosis, just let me know. Thanks again for your time and help Adam!

Rouk

Hey Adam...

I sent everything above earlier today but wanted to edit and add an update. I stopped by work tonight with some friends to hang out...(its a lounge) and she was working...Through the course of the night we made small talk, flirted, joked around etc...Then before we left i went to her and brought up possibly going out...She responded with "we cant" i asked "why", She said "because i have a b/f, you know that" so i followed up with a BF Destroyer and it worked, she laughed and gave me a little shoulder push. She then came out and said this "yes there is chemistry and an attraction, some people have it and some people dont and its clear that me and you do have really good chemistry, but im in a relationship and i care about him. DOnt get me wrong, if i were single, things would definitely be different. But im not single...I wouldnt like it if my BF went out with some girl, therefore im not going to do that to him." I chose not to push the issue because i didnt want to put pressure on her so instead i said (as i began to walk away) "I totally understand but i just want to point out that you brought up if you were single things would be totally different." she replied "but im not single, think about that." My response, "Exactly, your not single and ur thinking these things, its even worse...Your the one who should think about that....Goodnight" and walked away before she could respond. Writing it, it comes across as sounding serious but all this talking was done in a light manner, almost flirtingly.
Also, earlier in the night she told me how she went to a club last night and was thinking about me and how she thought i would be there but she realized i wasnt once she got there. But it was like she was disappointed i wasnt there...that was the impression i got.

Its clear that there is interest on her part...But shes standing strong on her principles. Did i handle the situation properly or should i have done things differently...
Also, with this new info, does it change your perspective on this situation and what steps i should take to get this to the next level???

Once again, thank you for taking the time to help me Adam, Your a good man!
Rouk

Dear Arman (avk)

Thanks buddy, I do what I can

Haha, its funny how being polite when interrupting two people talking is considered a taboo in our community isnt it?

Game or no game I've always been big on manners, it's how my dad raised me. I open the door for people, I help people up the stairs with their baggage. I always use the words please and thankyou. There is nothing wrong with it. Infact being polite is one of the best things you can ever do when talking to anyone.

It also sub communicates that you are a socially calibrated person and you take into account other people feelings but its just being polite really.

You shouldnt be getting rejected as you are only there for 30 seconds and adding value. Social proofing a venue is simply open, add value (make them laugh) introductions, then leave to go to other sets.

You'll find that when you add value you rarely get rejected and if it does happen dont worry it wont destroy your value, only dent it slightly but that can always be repaired!

AFC Adam,

Dear Dang1991,

Wow thats an incredible situation buddy but we can work with it!

What you need to do is take the role of the social connector, be the guy that everyone asks when the next party/event is going to happen. Be the guy thats always got something fun and interesting planned and can invite people to.

Firstly create an event, something that the people you want to hang out with will like. Then make it happen. Keep this event a regular thing, make sure you invite as many girls as possible. There should always be more girls than guys, thats the rule. Stick to it.

If you can arrange everything and do it on a regular basis, your social value will go through the roof as the guys will love you for hanging out with so many chicks and allowing them to come along and the girls will love you because you lead them and everyone else.

First things first, decide what your event will be. Then set it up so that people will want to come.

Hope this helps,

AFC Adam,