so, ive been to a party, wearing a really cool tshirt, and this girl walkd up to me and said that she has the same one. from there, we strated talking about the website that i ordered the tshirt from.. then i asked what other tshirts she had from there and it turned out with boath orderd the two same exact tshirts -- same taste...

then, i left the part, exactly when she did and it turned out we were headed in the same direction, so i gave her a ride, with a good friend in the car - who by the way gave me a very hard time DHVing me all the time.. but never mind.

the conversation progressed, we talked about movies and then my friend mentiond a very hot sauce i have back in my house, so we talked about that and she showd a great intress in trying that sauce..

now, in the end, i told her ill contact her on facebook so we will find the time for her to try the sauce..

please help me build the messege ill send her

I'm glad it went so well!
When stuff like the T-shirt similarity comes up, make sure you take the opportunity to lightly bust on her (stuff like playfully saying she can't wear it any more, she's copying you etc. treat her like an annoying little sister)

The hot sauce thing gave you a chance to have an instant date. If she was letting things go that way then she was clearly comfortable and rolling with it. (She had to be to get in a car with two male strangers). But don't worry about that for now, keep it in mind for next time.

As for the message: What I would do is host a little meal for some friends, write something about it in facebook status (e.g. K-G is a masterchef!)
If she doesn't comment on your status first, then send her an innocent greeting message.
Open it with a commonality you have (like the Tshirt thing) to make it topical instead of generic.
When she replies asking what you're up to, mention the meal and say that she can come along if she wants, and can try the hot sauce (add: 'if she's hard enough!' make it a light hearted challenge. She's then forced to qualify herself to you).

finish it off with a single, non-commital x. A capital X means you've put effort into it, two xx means you want to sleep with her. Three xxx means you love her. You don't wanna look desperate. Rememer the rules!

And remember to compose it as though you're giving HER the OPPORTUNITY to be in on the fun.

first of all, thank you very much for your help.

and about your advice.. in my current life situation.. its very unlikely for me to really host a meal with my friends.. not enough time, and im not enough of a cook

now, i did have something in mind, and maybe you can tell me if its good or not..

just send her a messege, subject - "you need the sauce!" but not talk about the sauce in the messege itself.. just say - "we didnt have enough time in the party to talk.. and open a thread about one of the things we talked about"

and then, after a few back and forth messeges, say - "talking over the internet is not comftable, and we are bound to meet so you can taste the sauce" and then arrange a meeting..

your thoughts