Hello.

I'm sorry if this post is placed in the wrong section/board, but since this in my opinion is related somehow to NLP, and there is no "Research-board" around.. here goes.

We all know the game, right? We all know how it works. We all know the basics. A1 -> S3. Perfection. But how does it work, at it's core? It's said that women cant help but to feel attraction when certain qualities are presented to them, and I agree. However, attraction is not equal to "love" or any deeper level of connection.

So that made me read on, unable to find anything relevant to my question. I must excuse myself if there is any material I havn't found.

Yes, first comes attraction, and then comfort. Rapport. Using NLP you can understand how rapport is created, and how it is destroyed. But is this all that creates a connection?

I've found an interesting thing in my own behaviour. This is also true for my male friends; If we focus our thought on a female, we tend to feel more for this person. As if the attraction is amplified by attention. Do you know if this is also true for women?

Could it be that if you make a women think about you more, she will get a deeper connection faster with you? This is a theory, and I have no evidence to back it up, but perhaps some of you guys/girls around here have any comments.

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"Could it be that if you make a women think about you more, she will get a deeper connection faster with you? This is a theory, and I have no evidence to back it up, but perhaps some of you guys/girls around here have any comments."

I think that sounds correct.

Ever used a lock-in prop before? This is a technique that I discovered by accident even before I discovered pickup. Leave a personal item with a girl, and it will not only create an excuse for a future meeting, she will think of you every time she sees it.

I had a girl leave some clothes at my house once. I wasn't even interested, but those clothes smelled so good that every time I saw them, I thought of her. They smelled like girl.

Good topic of discussion to bring up with girls. Because then you can...

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Have you ever thought about the difference
between attraction and being in love?

Her: What do you mean?

Well, actually I think they take place in different
settings. I mean attraction is what you experience
when you're in the presence of that person, (point to
yourself) and you're looking at them, and you maybe
you think to yourself ... (pause) mmmm. And maybe you
start to have certain ... (pause) thoughts, images and
you know what that feels like, right?

Her: Sure.

But falling in love, well I think you do that when
you're not even in that person's presence. I mean, can
you remember a time when you just totally fell for
someone?

Her: Yeah.

And as you sit there looking at me, thinking about
what I'm saying, you can remember what it felt like,
right?

Her: Sure.

Yeah, but here's how it happened. You spent some time
with that person (gesture to yourself) and then you
went home, and you PICTURE THAT PERSON IN YOUR MIND
(as you do this, draw a frame around your own face!
Ha! This sticks you in there!) right?

Her: Yes.

And then, maybe you IMAGINE YOURSELF in all sorts of
situations with this person (point to yourself again)
having lots of fun, and enjoying the kind of feelings
and things you'd like to enjoy with them? Can you
REMEMBER HOW THAT FEELS?
Her: Yeah

And then maybe you start to LIST ALL THE QUALITIES
about him you really like: He's so smart, he's so
funny, he's so fun to be with, whatever they were,
whatever the things are you really WANT AND ENJOY THAT
in someone (point to yourself again), right?

Her: Yeah

And then you get that feeling, right in the pit of
your stomach, right in your solar plexus, that just
starts to spread out and let you know you really,
REALLY LOVE THIS PERSON? (point to self again) I mean,
can you feel that as I describe it to you?

Her: Oh yeah.

And then, here's the kicker ... you START SAYING HIS
NAME OUT LOUD. You start BRINGING IT UP IN
CONVERSATIONS WITH YOUR FRIENDS, and maybe even you
DANCE AROUND THE HOUSE, SINGING IT if you're a real
goof? Right?

Her: Totally.

See, I think everything, including falling in love is
a process. And when you DO THAT PROCESS WITH SOMEONE,
(point to yourself) and really LET IT HAPPEN, that's
when the magic takes over, the magic we're really all
looking for. Of course sometimes that can take months,
but the real magic is when it happens INSTANTLY and
you know it right away. That's an incredible feeling,
isn't it?

(credit to Ross Jeffries)

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I'll try that after I've understood how to read it properly. Tonality and such.

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Very ve-ry interesting topic.
Like it was said above, it already was mentioned by Ross. But I've been thinking about this too and I've found that:
1 my sister told me she felt in love with some expensive clothes in a store, because she constantly thought about the clothes, about what she could do with it etc... thinking about that brings her satisfaction
2 there are people I hate SO MUCH I can think about them all the time, but I didn't fall in love with them... thinking about how you could handle/avoid the situation/person the next time brings you satisfation

See the difference? They both bring satisfaction, that's why you think about it all the time.
So most of 're gonna conclude: love is thinking about someone all the time because of the things you will do with him/her and because of what she/he seems to be, the ideal lover etc...

But later I've found another fact:
3 I find myself falling even more in love with someone I slightly failed to be with, like I really could have her but It just went wrong for a little reason I cant find out, so there's a mix between thinking about things that COULD happen en things I could DO to make it happen, the next time I've a new opportunity. I also fall in love with girls who give me just enough hope, so again here, I find myself thinking about things that COULD happen en things I could DO to make it happen.

So help me find a conclusion about what love really is please, and say it to me if I'm wrong with something:
Love = constantly thinking about something/someone because: 1 of all the good things it would bring to you 2 you're convinced you slightly missed it, thus you REALLY deserved it 3 so now you're not only thinking about all the good things, but you're also thinking about how you can fix it the next time you meet her 4 all this thaughts brings you satisfaction

So now we have to think about tricks to activate all those thaughts in the brains of your girl...

... or guy