k so heres the deal. girl i number closed last friday night, shes a bartender at a bar i quite often frequent, and ive had my eye on her for since the first time i met her (friday night was the 2nd time meeting her). anyway she came over Sunday we hung out for a bit, and i managed to build what i like to call TCC. Trust, Comfort, and Connection. (im sure some of you will recognize this). anyways so on Sunday when we hung out, we watched a movie in my bedroom. so we are lying on my bed, and randomly she rolls over and kisses me, i replied with "hah took you long enough." anyway that kiss turned into about 45 minutes of making out, i didnt really want to sleep with her, cuz i actually liked her. and im pretty picky about the girls i date/have relationship with. infact this is the first girls ive even considered dating in the past 3 months since ive moved to Toronto. anyway, after this make out session, she explains to me that she just got out of relationship, and she doesnt want to date anyone, because she seems to become "unattracted" to the person after a short period of time. she also expressed that she "really likes me" and that "im different from every other guy shes ever been attracted to". anyway we have plans tomorrow (Wednesday). id would like to legitimately date this girl. but i dont really care. essentially i have come up with 3 options, and im asking your guys opinions on them and which one you would suggest.
1) just sex the shit out of her, give her what she wants, but in doing so, become like every other guy. id prefer to refrain from this, but it is an option none the less.
2) sexually freeze her out, kiss her, do whatever but express that im not going to have sex with her until we "date".
3) freeze her out completely on the physical shit, kissing, etc. and subtlely explain that i dont do stuff with girls im currently not dating.

what do u guys think? any other suggestions are welcome. also, what do u make of her excuse? a shit test? or seem pretty legit to you guy?

thanks fellow PUAs.

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your prob better then me, but i've read books and have a opionon for you. And btw TCC is by zan perssion right? If it is Zan, he would choose the option that'll give you the most memories, the game is called the game for a reason right? In the art of suduction by robert greene, suducers don't just have sex and leave ( well maybe rakes do) but its a game, a challenge, fun. What will bring you the most fun out of those 3 options? Knocking one down and after another is said to leave you empty in the short run, maybe long term ( i don't mean marriage or anything) will bring more fun? Beats me man, up to you, hope this helps a little

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holy shit, I never thought I'd see the day, a guy on this fourm willing to turn down perfectly good sex? what's next a ban on blow jobs?

dude, your my hero I just wish i could offer advice but personally i'd be blowing smoke out my ass if I did....

i just reread your questions, seems to me that 2 of them sound alike, well 3 have similar things in them, i think you already made up your mind""don't have sex option till we date", i'd say stick with your character, your beliefs, your choices, and if your choices don't give you the results you want, i'd suggest you change them next time. I think you'd want to stick to your guns tho, ur character, some ppl might desagree but right now i'm thinking your following yourself, and she'll know that you've got one hell of a inner strength in you. I'm abit sleepy, so any comments to what i said is very welcome, i want to get some feed back good or bad, wanna do some learning.

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the main reason i dont like sleeping with a girl im not dating, is because i sometimes seem to lose interest and attraction in her. everyone likes a challenge right? so if i get laid instantly im just like, not interested anymore. if shes willing to sleep with me that easily, then what about the next guy that comes around if we did get into a relationship. thats my thoughts anyway. i pride myself on being entirely different from every other person. so when i straight up turn down sex, it bugs the girl right out, and makes her have a burning desire to get it. then they usually do what it takes to get it. but im wondering if i should just give her what she wants...

its the simple "we seek that which evades us" type thing. if a girl wants sex but cant have it. makes her want it more. so my method of thinking, is if i dont give it to her, maybe she'll desire it enough to lock into casual dating. i know she does want to be in a relationship, im extremely good at reading people, and she did say she really likes me and all that jazz. but something is holding her back. she did say that she just got out of a 6mth relationship with a guy, and she has mentioned him, kinda makes me think she had feelings for him and still does. so that could explain the not wanting of a relationship quite yet.

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I am unclear on what you want. Do you want a relationship, or do you want sex?

It looks to me like the girl wants a relationship with you which to me is a far greater compliment then just some random sex. You said you pride yourself on being different from other guys. You say that other guys sleep with her and leave, and you too have that tendancy. If you really pride yourself in being different than other guys then do it! You have to learn to enjoy a woman for more than just sex because just sex is only one part of what makes them a full person. Those who don't enjoy women in all their parts are really missing out. That doesn't mean totally ignore their sexual side, that is also a part of them and you must love it too.

I personally think you should wait for a bit on the sex, escalate it slowly, enjoy every moment. That doesn't mean stop escalating, just do it at a slow pace. This way she will have much more time and energy invested in you and when someone invests time and energy in you well... thats how a relationship forms.

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everything u just said is exactly the opposite of what i want.

and i want the sex, just after we've been moved to the casual dating stage.

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