No no . . . mrfickle is right about not acknowledging the other guy. That is the information you KEEP to yourself. You use that information to play your game. Don't pull any of this freaky locker room crap. Man up and go, "Hey, how about a dinner and a movie at my place?" Done.
Think about what she is seesawing in her mind. Sorry I wrote up that list in random order. She's not going to go one way or another because you might be a better "therapist" than her ex. Not sure if you've studied psychology but you have to work up the pyramid of "needs". After you tap her sexually, she will give in and trust you more emotionally. This is when you can be a cuddly bear to her if you want to. Right now, you have to keep this sexual tension going, be confident, and swing for the fences.
Also . . . the "royal bitch" comment is something you might try to "open up" up a bitch. You've already escalated this to the next level. You've already made lots of progress. No more "light, flirty, ha ha ha . . . crap" from now on. Now it's, "Hey, I'm heading to ____ club, you want to go?", "Hey, I'm renting ______. Come over, it'll be fun."
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It seems as if she deep down wants to interact with me, but shes having to tell herself not to...
This is one way to look at it . . .
Another way to look at it is that she really, really wants to interact with you but you haven't yet offered her fun, safe, exciting, private means to interact with you yet. She's wants to tell herself that she "WANTS TO". Just give her the reasons to say, "YES".