So I have messed up somewhere with the hb from my fr. I am not sure what I did, but this is how the convo today went.

Thorsten: Hey, whats up?
Hb: nothin much, you
Thorsten: stuck in traffic, what you doin thursday? Wanted to see if you were down to chill?
Hb: ill let you know. About what happend, i am sorry. I didn't want to give you the wrong idea.
Thorsten: what idea are you talkin about?

That was it, she never replied. Could she be talkin about a relationship, sex, or the whole secret thing (good job I have done with that. lol)?

If you read the fr, then you know that she laid out how she felt about me and that we hooked up. (just short of me stickin it in... ) So i left later in the morning. she said she was gonna go to her room, cuz it was too bright in the front room. So i just said ok, i am gonna go home; i have stuff to take care of. Did i mess up by leaving? I mean we still spent like 3 hours sleeping together after hooking up. I can't help but think that the way i left gave her buyers remorse. So now the question is what do i do? I am thinking of just waiting it out. I don't mind if a relationship dosen't happen, but i atleat wanna get another shot at an fclose. And what the hell idea is she talking about? Only i can create a problem out of the near perfect situation lol.

She is probably embarrassed to talk about "the idea" and you questioned her about it, prompting her to recite it.

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yeah, i have no clue as to what idea she is talking about. lol. it could be one of three things that i can think of.I just don't get this situation.

Buyers remorse? might be the reason, you made her feel cheap and slutty


SF

that is exactly what i am thinking. Don't know how to pull this one out though. any suggestions?

what ive used a few times when this happend and it worked to some degree, is go afc, not to much just enough to make her feel like the prize in the scenario that goes against everything we preach and learn but continue as usaul and you wont get her, time to phase shift to mr. nice guy, caring guy..this way she will think she finally see's the deeper side of you, a side which is more then fucking and getting head, the side that cares about her gives her safety and comfort, how do you achive this, simple make her feel like you seem to feel about her, she's special.

SF

oh boy, i think i can do that. I am thinkin about givin her a call tomm. Maybe invite her out for dinner? Apologize about things? sound good? Try to show soft emotions (thats will be interesting).

Dinner... might be a bad idea. Do something fun, try to make her forget about what happened, rather than talk about it and possibly make her feel worse. Take her go-karting of paintballing if she's up for it

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Ok, i like your idea more. new plan: mini golf/arcade. maybe some dance dance revolution? lol. Then off for some ice cream and a walk in the park? You gotta love those things! .

evul =)


SF

lol, yeah. You know, nothin beats tips from a girl when it comes to being an afc. Just got off the phone with a friend, she suggested bringin some white roses. i am just saying, that has got to do somethin for making me look like a total afc. lol I think i can pull this off, just gotta make sure i don't look needy.

DON'T... bring roses, PLEASE!

On the other hand, you COULD bring some chocolates (no, not the ones in the fancy package) and share it with her

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"What doesn't kill us makes us stronger."
"Do not fear the unknown - embrace it."

no flowers, no date, nothin. We talked, I invited her out. She said she had to work, so i said " i promise you will have a fun time." You know what she said to that? What kind of fun are you talking about? What kind of question is that? So i told her the good kind. to which se promptly replied nope. I told her I was talking about mini golf, and she never responded.

I just can't win with this one. I don't have oneitis, but i do want to try and get somethin goin. Or atleast find out what the deal is and be friends again. lol. she would make a good pivot. With my luck, she is prob on this forum reading what i am saying. lol. Now i think it is time to just wait it out, maybe give her a call and put the ball in her court. Then just do a total freeze out.

Well now that she is sorta rejecting you , you are beginning to feel that she means more and more, (u always want what u cant have), chill down a bit. give it(her buyeers remorse) some time to cool down. imo a good funny conversation on the phone, not deciding anything ie dinner or such, just talking about anything for maby 30 min - 1h, will be a great way to recover. that way she wont feel the preasure of meeting up with u, which I guess she got now. this way you just build comfort and she's remembering why you were so fun to be with, and after doing this maby 2 times max, u should be back in game again. then decide a date and do the whole minigolf/arcade thingy (great dating scenario! had it yesterday )

Gimme your thoughts about this way of recovering =)

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No presents or roses, dont buy anything like that might fuck shit up and project way to much neediness..


SF