| I've told you a lot of stories.
Some good. Some great. Some AWESOME. smilie
Now it's your turn. If you have gotten ANYTHING good from LVo3, anything that made your life better, you have an obligation to give back.
Since we don't charge a ton of money to spend on clever marketing, we rely on word of mouth of good men to help others find what they need, so the more people you can tell, the more you help us make the world happier and sexier. smilie
To quote the almighty Beastie Boys, "it's called Gratitude, and that's right!"
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And to start the giving, I'm giving you today's exercise from this month's UCP Bootcamp for free. It's also called "Gratitude," and no one knows it better than this month's coach, Matt. So read on, and if you're already in the UCP, go to the private forum with your password and tell your whole UCP family your thoughts. Remember, that which you think always stays a fantasy, but when you talk, write, or act on a thought, it becomes real.
Gratitude, from the UCP
Why am I bringing this up? Personally for me, I’m very grateful for my past relationships with women. There haven’t been that many, but I’ve learned a HELLUVA lot from those that I take to make my current relationship better. I don’t hate or have any negative feelings about my exes. That doesn’t mean that some of them didn’t piss me off to no end when we were together. But I still Love them and honestly wish I could meet up with them and see how they’re doing.
Go on your journal and list out the things you’re grateful for. They can be anything at all. You have a lot going for you. You have clothes, a computer, money, food, water, shelter. If you have fully functioning arms and legs; that’s something to be grateful for as well. How about HEALTH, as I’m currently lacking right now, lol.
Feeling gratitude and appreciation for what you have is a humbling and enlivening experience. When you’re aware of what you already have and appreciate it, you no longer become needy for what you want. And sincere appreciation and gratitude can be one of the greatest gifts you can give to the world as you’re focused on what you HAVE instead of what you can TAKE.
I’m also going to have you pick an object, any object, and that will be your gratitude object. I stole this straight from the Secret. I have a gratitude rock. It’s something small that can fit in your pocket and whenever you touch it, just take a moment and think of all the things you’re grateful for. So, when you put it in your pocket in the morning, you’ll feel gratitude and when you empty your pockets at night, you’ll see your object and feel gratitude again.
This will help you to focus on what’s already in your life. It’s not that you can’t have desires and wants. You can still want things in life (like a particular woman, for instance) but before you even approach her just take a moment to feel gratitude and appreciation for what you’ve already got going in your life. And what will happen is you’ll notice your interactions with people change. You no longer have this ‘need’ to get something from the world. You’re being a more ‘noble’ version of yourself. Your radar isn’t tuned in to only the things you want to hear, but rather to the things people say on a much broader spectrum.
So, go pick a ‘gratitude’ object and make your list of things you’re grateful for. And give it a couple months to see how your life shifts!
Love,
Sean
P.S. It's a total coincidence that I thought of this just a few days before heading up to my Mom's house for Thanksgiving (the holiday here in the States where we celebrate the good things we have been given by bickering with family, eating our weight in turkey and stuffing, and clipping coupons for Xmas sales). But since I'm already here, I am so greatful for the chance I have been given to teach. My whole life, as far back as I can remember, I just wanted to do the stuff I loved and have a cool girlfriend who made that stuff even cooler.
(It's not even about sex. Well, maybe 40%. 60%. 80%. Whatever.)
Point is, in another life, down another road, I am still living in suburban Boston, working for the New England Journal of Medicine, creating cool stuff online to get medical info to people in need, making some nice coin for my work, and married to a beautiful girl, living in a beautiful house, with some beautiful kids... and we would all be sooooo... UNHAPPY. It would be silent, but it's the silence that kills. That silent resentment hanging in the air at the dinner table. That longing to just hit the road and disappear. That feeling in my gut when I pull in the driveway at the end of a workday, and see the lights in the house, and know that it's not my house, not my place, not my life. And maybe I'd make that feeling go away for a bit by taking a pull off the emergency bottle of Scotch I kept under the seat of my truck.
Sounds crazy, right? But it's true. I remember those nights. I wasn't married yet, but I was on the path, and I could see things only getting worse. Sad thing is, according to everyone around me, I was doing GREAT. I had it all. Career, girl, money, security. And that just made me more miserable.
She wasn't the girl for me, and I was not the man for her. It wasn't Love. It was just animal need, like you need a warm body next to you on a winter's night to keep from freezing to death all alone.
It was an accident of fate that I found David DeAngelo. Well, that and his genius marketing. smilie It was a strange call that led me to take a class with PU101. It was even stranger that they called me back and invited me to start teaching. And every step I've taken walking along that crazy river has made no sense to those close to me, and sometimes, no sense even to me, but it's gotten me so far...
My life now is creating more happiness every day. I create it for me. For my girl. For my family. And for so many people, like you, and even though we may never meet, I want you to know how greatful I am that you let me share with you what I've learned on my journey. Your happiness, and your words mean so much.
We are all gonna end up in the same place, eh? Somehow, we're going back into the ground, no matter what we do, and then after that? It's anyone's guess. But what we do know is that while we are here, we have a chance to live, to laugh, to dance and fuck and smile and to spread a little cheer. We're doing it right now, and it's a beautiful thing to see.
Keep it up. Keep sharing the LVo3. _________________ ===
Sean Messenger
http://LVo3.com
"War is not the answer. Love is."
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