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PostPosted: Wed Nov 19, 2008 10:04 pm 
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One other thing I can suggest is that it's not necessary that you find someone who loves everything you love - that's unlikely, and even if you do, even that isn't all it's cracked up to be. The whole point of conversation and getting to know someone is that you are able to RELATE. You may find the things that she's into seem boring or even stupid on the surface, but the if you look at the motivations underlying her interests, you'll be amazed how much you have in common on that front.

With the last girl I was seeing, we found common ground in reading even though we had completely opposite tastes: I'm into heavy stuff like Dostoevsky (which she found boring), and she was into new age touchy-feely stuff that I can't stand. But it didn't matter: we both found that the way that these books totally blew us away and expanded the way we think, or how much the different authors had in common philosophically and/or morally were things we could talk about on end. Another example: if you're into sports and she's into ballet, there is so much there in terms of mind-over-matter and striving for physical perfection that you can chat about for ages. Don't be limited by assuming that because there are superficial differences between you and women, you have nothing in common or that they're not interesting. You just have to have faith that no matter how different you are, you have a good chance of finding bonds. You might even find that some girls are more interesting and you have more in common with them than the guys who you share superficial interests with. Human beings are remarkably similar when you dig down - otherwise the psychology and psychiatry wouldn't exist...


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PostPosted: Thu Nov 20, 2008 1:56 am 
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I don't know if this feeling is common with all guys, but am I the only one who loses interest in women as a whole after sexual release of any kind? For example, let's say im going to a bar with the boys but before i go out i squeeze one out, as soon as I get to the bar i am not really interested in talking to women and would rather talk to my friends or even other guys. I just think males are far more interesting and complete as human beings than women (generally of course). Sometimes when I'm horny I'll be dying to talk to women but if im not i just cant push myself to be around them ,they bore the crap out of me.

I guess my point is, how can I be interested in women beyond the sexual? Most of the doable girls I've met throughout my life are just extremely boring and not unique or interesting or adventerous. Even the women I meet at the library are extremely 1 dimensional, do you guys have any tips on meeting attractive AND interesting women ?
Yah bro, I know exactly what you mean, stop wanking and stop watching porn, I guarantee you will have interest. worked for me.


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With the last girl I was seeing, we found common ground in reading even though we had completely opposite tastes: I'm into heavy stuff like Dostoevsky (which she found boring), and she was into new age touchy-feely stuff that I can't stand. But it didn't matter: we both found that the way that these books totally blew us away and expanded the way we think, or how much the different authors had in common philosophically and/or morally were things we could talk about on end. Another example: if you're into sports and she's into ballet, there is so much there in terms of mind-over-matter and striving for physical perfection that you can chat about for ages. Don't be limited by assuming that because there are superficial differences between you and women, you have nothing in common or that they're not interesting. You just have to have faith that no matter how different you are, you have a good chance of finding bonds. You might even find that some girls are more interesting and you have more in common with them than the guys who you share superficial interests with. Human beings are remarkably similar when you dig down - otherwise the psychology and psychiatry wouldn't exist...
This is almost exactly what I was going to say. People very rarely have specific things in common. I may really love spam, but most people don't. If I talk about spam for 5 hours people will be bored out of their minds. If I however talk about how it feels to eat my favorite thing ever anyone can relate. Commonalities based on emotions and feelings are much easier to relate to someone, and not only that they have a much more powerful effect on the connection you are having with them.

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