Hi boys, I'm looking to pick up some tips on body language cues.

I'm a very, very, very high-energy girl, imagine a chipmunk is inside the head of a pretty girl, now you know me.
So I have difficulty figuring out when I'm bringing in too much energy to a set and I end up making everyone uncomfortable.
I also tend to bring in a lot of sexual topics too. I'm trying to build sexual interest, but eventually I go too far and I creep people out.

Do you guys have any resources or advice to help me decode the 'Okay...she's starting to get creepy' signals?

The most famous source on body language is 'Body Language' by Alan Pease but to be honest it's a bit dated. There're loads of books on the subject about or, alternatively you could just google it, chances are there are plenty of websites with tons of free info.

I'd say generally look for closed signals: people using their arms, legs or other body parts to put a barrier of sorts between them and you... usually by holding a drink against their chest or "fixing" a cufflink on their shirt. That kinda thing, but at the same time the person could be naturally shy or defensive, plus if the room is crowded and people are forced to stand a bit closer together than feels natural for them they'll usually create a barrier anyway.

Also look at the direction they're facing. If they're angling their body away from you it usually means they're not 100% comfortable.

I could be wrong on this and since this site is mostly populated by guys you can all feel free to correct me, but most of the time the guys in a set will be attracted to a high-energy girl. Usually because she's the easiest to interact with and because most guys take her high energy level in interacting with them to mean that she's some way interested in them. Problem is, the majority of these guys probably won't be "high quality" for want of a better term.

yea what punkyfish said makes sense... I know when a girl with really high energy comes up to me in a set, I think it lightens up the set. It may just be for me but I dont like when that high energy girl keeps "movin" the set left and right and interrupts all the time... But ya never know... Heck, your question from your point of view could even be used as an opener lol...

And for creepiness, if the place your in is high energy then guys are specifically there for a purpose and will probably find it funny

Could you give us an example of a set you've been in where you feel or have been told that you're creeping the group out with the topics or the energy?

Reading people is relatively easy. I like to break it up into a couple different categories. Posture and body language tell alot and usually say the most. When you are interacting with people, notice their angles with you, if they are moving around, if you are forcing them to move (or stand still). Since you're pretty high energy it sounds like you wouldn't have much trouble being in a positive physical position with a set. Just be sure not to be too intimidating with your energy. I would suggest taking a couple deeps breaths before approaching a set/entering a club. Also try and focus on listening to them, it will make you think more and act less. Too much action = intimidation.
The second category I like to think of when it comes to body language is facial/reactions. We have all been reading other people's faces and reactions our entire life. Just make sure you are watching for the small things like where their eyes are going, how they talk back, and especially watch them during and after a routine because from there you can judge how to escalate the situation.

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People think I'm a crazy person half the time too. The best advice I can give is to embrace who you are and rock it! keep a strong frame by not allowing peoples judgment to affect you. Plus if youre like me, you end up talking to a bunch of people anyways.

If you think, oh gosh, I'm creeping them out, you are being reactive, and people can get that cue from YOU. Most rock stars and artists, creative people in general are weird, but what makes them cool is that they just don't give a fuck what anyone thinks.

Don't get too sexual with people you just met, though.. I mean c'mon. Save your good stuff for those who deserve it! Plus, high valued guys, I am assuming you are learning game for, like the chase, so if you come off slutty/ too sexual, we will literally think "Too easy." No one wants a girl anyone can get. Even if you aren't slutty, which I get the feeling you are lots of early sexuality talk makes you seem that way.

Just joshin about the slutty thing too

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