Hey guys I just want to say that sometimes I give off too much of a nice innocent guy, where as many times girls want more of an assertive guy that provides a sense of danger/excitement at times. I am definitely not a push over by any means and will stand up for what I believe in. My job limits me from doing anything too crazy or illegal that would be seen has fun or spontaneous. So the question exists, how can I become more fun/dangerous?

Man, I'm in the same situation.
Someone's gotta have a little input on this.

Good question. I'm trying to figure this myself....I've always had "nice-guyitis".

I've just gotten some original music published on iTunes and Amazon (with Rhapsody and Yahoo!Music coming soon)...I think I can use that to at least create a little mystery and allure in a "pseudo-celebrity" kind of way. That's my plan anyway...we'll see how well it works.

Gruuve

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Divorced dude having a good life.

Anything that makes them go Did he really just do that? or say that? (not an asshole thing. I'm saying flirty or something subtle)
Now you've just created a mystery of yourself.

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Is it really that simple? I can say fire off innuendo's that would make a porn star blush...I should be in good shape according to this...

Gruuve

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Divorced dude having a good life.

It's always worked for me.. I've never worn my emotions on my sleeve and never qualified myself if someone says differently. I'm academically smart and I believe to have quite a bit of depth that I rarely ever show. When I'm with a girl though I never come across this way and every once in a while something comes up like a quality you posess that they don't know. If you slowly show them something interesting about yourself like DHVing but not just some canned story or.. if you shock them like having the wild side if you're the nice guy then you've just showed you've got another level of yourself and they want to explore it.

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Anything in particular that you've found works, what kind of qualities are we talking about that have worked for you guys that draw interest?

'Niceguyitis' itself isn't such a bad thing. The real problem is that if it comes across too early to a chick, especially a really hot one, you're immediately categorized as yet another one of those million other guys who're submissive, predictable and will basically do anything for her. Now balancing this with 'danger' is certainly an option, although I'm willing to bet that there are a hell of a lot of skydivers/bungeejumpers/<insert extreme sport here> who have a lot of women problems, despite the apparent excitement in their life. So what do we do? The answer, simply put, is to not act overly nice to her until you make her deserve it. You don't have to be act tough, dangerous, mean, etc (that's the other end of the spectrum) if you don't want to. Hitting the right attraction switches is what it's all about. Show her that you're confident, non-needy, socially cultured, and you're in business.

Try acting cocky funny early on, and then sincerely compliment her later. Or, if that isn't really you, don't give away your own value too early in the interaction: act neutral towards her while demonstrating value in conversation, and THEN reward her with warmness when she's clearly into you. DO NOT drop being a good guy altogether or else you'll end up with girls that are initially interested in you, who then ditch you because you're a jerk. Being able to show that deep down there you're a decent guy is gold. More and more chicks will want to keep you around.

But you have to make them earn it.

Yeah, don't give easy approval. That's the mark of a nice guy and girls are not turned on by that. Don't always be available. Don't accept everything the girl says, challenge her statements and opinions. Get physcially in shape, as physical strength will speak words that you won't have to. Be able to neg a girl with a smile on your face. Hint at a darker side.

Still be genuine, you're nice and that's good, now accept your duality as a person. Happiness comes from sadness, pleasure comes from pain, so when you say you're nice, guess what? You also posess the opposite. Now, I would never condone being mean to the point of unfairly hurting someone, only as a sign of having a backbone or an edge.

Remember you can still be a GOOD guy, without being a nice guy.