hey,
I am new to the community and have recently got into it after reading some of the biggest names in the pickup communities book's.
I have always been decent with women and since i have joined I have added to my skills.
However i need some help which is where you come in!

I met this women who i met in a nightclub and and she came back to mine that night. It just so hapened she is a good friend with one of my best girly mates which was great and just made the seduction easier.
I played it cool and made her chase me which was great because i could see she was really into me. I did all the right things an alpha male would to build attraction and eventually set up a date.
This is where the problem starts.
On the date I had an awesome time with her and she told her friends the same. It was a dinner out then to a bar to watch a band (she loves her music!)
I thought everything went great but then she told her friends even though we had an awesome time together she didnt feel the chemistry between us.

I have text her a couple of times since the date and heard no reply until 4 days later where she said "hey hope your ok blah blah had a gd time but think we should be friends etc".

I have developed "one-itis" over her since the date. Apparently she is gutted as she really liked me aswell but "just didnt feel it". She said i was a great guy who is a good laugh and told her mates she is really physically attracted to me.
I feel gutted as i felt more chemistry with her than any other women iv been with and feel as though i didnt act myself because i was so nervous! i could see myself really liking this girl and not just because shes hot!


Is there anyway to win her over or at least anything i could be doing to make more of a connection? and if not how can i create chemistry in the future?
Please let me know what you guys think!

Here is where you are screwing up: you're listening to what she says as opposed to her actions. Ignore what she is saying about the two of you. Now, are you still seeing IOIs?

Conceptualize this. Interest and attraction are not the same thing. Interest is a conscious decision that you want something. Attraction is not a choice, its an automatic response we have when we come in contact with certain stimuli, such as DHVs.

Just because a girl says she isn't interested, it doesn't mean she isn't attracted to you. This all comes back to recognizing IOIs.

Assuming she is attracted, the method for reaching a close is still the same: attraction + comfort building. If you can build enough kino with her, you will eventually make out. The combination of attraction and comfort building will shut off any girl's social conditioning, at least temporarily.

Her social conditioning can turn back on, and she may say some rejection-like things to you the next day. Ignore it or agree, but don't argue or whine. Rinse and repeat the same method again. This may take several times.

From here on out, you need to stop all AFC-level behavior. Mentally let go of your feelings for her until you actually need them. You don't care anymore. You should now have an attitude of not caring, acceptance, and just wanting to have fun. Your emotions are there to fuck you up, not to serve your cause. Let your methodical mind take control for the time being, it will serve you much better.

Whenever she gives resistance, either agree or simply just act like you don't care. If she says "lets just be friends", then agree but secretly ignore it. Don't whine and DO NOT ARGUE THE STATUS OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP UNLESS YOU ARE ACTUALLY DATING. This shows needy behavior and is a turn off for girls. If she gives LMR, do a freeze out. This is all to build trust, show high value on your part, and make kino escalation easier.

In conclusion, stop all needy behavior and start kino escalating like crazy. Here is an example that worked for me: go out to eat, then come back to your bedroom to watch a movie. Cuddle up, but don't try to close (unless you're certain she wants it). Build massive kino. Repeat the same date a few days later. You will seal the deal within a week.

I hope this was helpful. Good luck!