hey guys

i use the same shop 3 or 4 times a week and thers a hb girl working at the till . my problem is that the transaction is very quick as im usualy just buying gum . we make the odd comment about the weather , but thers always a que of people behind me and its hard to build a bit of rapport with her

anyone got any ideas ? . cheers

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There must be a time when it doesn't have many customers. But dude seriously talking about the weather is the most boring thing you could do.

yeah i would have to agree. There's nothing much to say about the weather like, "It's rainy and such!" Be direct and bold with her. Open her quickly with something like, "Has it been busy?" only if it seems to be slow and not so. She'll stike up a conversation. May want to kid around with her by saying, "How are you tonight?" If she smiles and then looks down or laughs and say, "I'm okay." read her body language if it's not congrudent then put in the joke, "Oh no, you've been causing trouble haven't you?" This is flirting with her and she'll laugh and smile. Tell her, "I promise i won't tell!" and smile. If she laughs or smiles then you're in. You can't use kino right there and then but tell her, "I'm having a party at x place at y time. You should come!" If she says okay or sure. Tell her, "Gimme ur number and I'll call you." then whip out ur trusty phone and if she's writing her phone then give it to her. Tell her that you'll see her later. Then text her with ur number with maybe a joke or somehting, "Behave for once! " then she has ur number and she'll laugh then be most likely want to meet up with you! Women love a guy that can make her laugh!

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Write her a small note.

Walk up with something friendly and simple with no agenda, give it to her when you pay.

"Hope your having a good day " it can read. even draw a rainbow or something very quaint and sweet, like a kid would to another kid. Why? Because mindless work makes people wish they were kids again, full of energy and hope etc...

Then come back a few days later and give her another one, maybe a little more personal, but not abrasive or demanding of anything. Maybe something with a fill-in the blank that she can give to you tomorrow. What's your name? Favorite pasttime, book, etc?

"I've decided that we can't comment on the weather in our conversations. So I have to ask...did you see the game last night?"

or something. These are ice breakers, if she likes you, shows some interest in you, indicates any IOI's. Tell her you like to take her for coffee on her break one of these days.

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^Some good ideas there. Fill in the blank with a name or past time though is a bit of an AFC thread.

For 'behing the counter' sarges I almost always go direct game. Where I live they are often foreign so a money opener of mine is 'how do you say (I love you/hello darling/what's up sweetie/your place or mine) in your language?'

That usually gets them going.

If not, get in their shoes. Another one I use is "It must be pretty interesting to see all these people passing by...or I s'pose pretty dull if you see someone you like (drop voice tone, anchor/self point) and you can't really do anything about it because you're working".

^That sets the frame. Where I put elipses (...), wait for her to agree first, that will make her more inclined to agree to your next bit.

I think use of notes and props is good. I haven't tried this but an idea might be to look out the window awkwardly, then quickly say "hold this" (give her your watch or something, then run/walk fast outside). You can come back when the queue has died down and logistics are better. Then when you're back, she'll never forget you because that was so weird. Also, she'll try to find out why you did that. You got her interest. Bust on her for nicking your watch or whatever and carry on the sarge.

You can do a palm reading over the counter too. At the end just compliment her, then disqualify her (push/pull), then neg and qualify, then close.

If she's congruent and calibration points you well then also mention that in the guardian (a newspaper in the uK if you're not from there) it said that 1 in 6 people have had sex at their work place. That's another good thread.

Hope this helped buddy.

I like Gamblers post. Try it out - there's nothing to lose! If she doesn't dig you then no big loss. It's hers!

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