Background

I am 36
The chick is 30
She has had some very bad relationships.... her ex from a long time ago is a convicted murderer and she has issues about him
She opened up emotionally to her last boyfriend a lot.... and he dumped her
I am the first person she has had sex with for a year
She sounds like a nutcase... but she is actually tops ... and very sexy ... and wants kids (so do I)...

The Situation

6 months ago I moved into the house next door. I had just read the game ... and I gamed her brilliantly. We got together and started having regular sex etc... and she thinks i am amazing. She knows I am caring etc... but also I have shown "alpha traits"... i have won over her friends, i am the leader of the pack at the bar at which we drink.

Then I went to india for a month.

I come back and i am in the "friend zone"..... "I am not ready for a relationship... I want to be friends"

Shit

I have told her that i am not interested in being friends... I want more.

She keeps giving me great vibes... and positive feedback. We hugged the other night ... and it was more then a "friends" hug.... it got kind of sexual... but she broke it off and said "this is feeling too good.

We went swimming in a river yesterday... she wouldnt kiss me after.

She wants to cook me dinner this thursday.. indian food.

I bought her some presents in india ... some very nice stuff that i have not yet given to her ... but i wonder if I would be smothering her if I gave them to her. She knows about the presents. Last week i told her i am ok being friends... and that i still want to give her the presents cause i got them for her. One of the presents is a real heart wrencher... it is some herbal oil from a 900 year old temple dedicated to female reproductive health and wellbeing (yes she has had ovary probs int he past too that are now fixed). I stepped into a group of praying indian ladies and got some oil and smudged it onto a coin. I also brougt back some chocolate from the top of an indian mountain (she loves chocolate) as well some beautiful material (she loves making her own cloths).


What do I do

Do I give her the presents... or not give her the presents?
Do i cancel the dinner and say that if we are over then i need some space to move on?
Do I do the dinner... give her the presents... then ask her not to contact me for a while because i need space?
Do I keep on being her friend while quietly letting her know that I want more?
Do I chase other women and make her jealous?



Please don't just be flippant in your responses. I want real advice from guys that have been through numerous relationships.

I would really like to turn this situation around.

You shouldn't have told her that you are fine with being friends to begin with.

While you were in INdia, did you make any effort to try and get in touch with her? If you didn't, then you pretty much cut ties and then expected things to be normal. She probably met another person while you were in India. Otherwise, why would she back off a hug that felt "so good." Why would she be so determined NOT to re-initiate things?

THe offering of presents is your choice; you have to decide - would you be giving them to try and reunite the two of you, or would you be giving them too her because it is just something you want to do. If you think they will help build your relationship, i'll tell you - they won't.

My best advice would be to either:

create a sexual frame. Once you increase her buying temp and the two of you hook up, she will more likely revert back to her previous emotional view of you. Igniting what had diminished while you were gone for a month.

or

move on. Normally I would say hang out, be friends...and don't expect anything. but you said you can't do that. so give her the presents or don't....but don't stick around to be a back burner option. you would be doing yourself a great dis-service.

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