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PostPosted: Fri Nov 14, 2008 5:16 am 
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I have a friend named summer that ive been buddy buddy with for the last 3 years. over the last year we have grown closer and make out sometimes when drunk. sometimes i swear she wants to act on curiosity other times i think that she is just drunk and were friends.

How do i show some value and get this out of my system to see if their is more to our friendship. i want to be able to have my friend one nite, not be so friendly. :wink:

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Alright, so from what I can find (I'm running off what I've heard about Juggler) you aren't the one to seduce Summer.
You need to show her a 'new person'. You need to present her with someone who isn't her friend, someone who has the chance to seduce her.
If my friend were to walk up to me looking like he always does, then I'm just thinking of him as my friend.
Now if he walks up to me with a good haircut, tight-fitting clothes, a bit of good cologne and well-groomed? Suddenly he's not my dorky friend anymore. He's a new, interesting person. They're a person who can seduce me.

What I'd suggest is a change in clothes, maybe hair-style. What you need to do is something you've never done before. If you've never had a mustache, grow one. Just do something you've never done before.

Be aware however, that you're definitely putting your friendship with Summer on the line and you need to be ready to let it go if things go sideways.

My best suggestion for opening her up to it is that you suggest you two go on a date, a real date. Don't take no for an answer, but if she'll have none of it, understand that you've changed the relationship forever.

Best of luck.

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well i dont know about changing your whole style, but you do need to show her another side to her. there are some articles here about how to get out of the LJBF zone, but the most important thing is taking control of the frame, or perception of the relationship. try to bring up your kino when you can too. work on building up some sexual tension too.

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Do not, do not, _do not_ for the love of the Gods escalate kino in a Friend-to-Relationship scenario. You need to do something new and different, but if you escalate kino after a long period of having low-kino contact or friend-kino contact, you run the risk of setting off the Creepy Guy alarm bells. There's no way to increase kino that late into a relationship and not have it come off as strange.

Change up your style a bit, and use your words. Get into a conversation and stop it dead (pattern break) with "I think we should date." Wait for her reaction and respond.

"But we've been friends for such a long time...": Exactly. We're good friends, and I find you attractive, and I'd like to take you out on a date, see if we're compatible in a romantic field.

"I don't want to ruin our friendship...": If one bad date would ruin our relationship, we might not be as close as I thought we were.

"Um... Yeah, ok.": Cool. I know this great little sushi place I've been dying to try. I'm free Friday night.

"I don't know...": Well, let's find out.

And most important, like Cinnamon Spice said, you're putting your relationship on the line here. You want something she may or may not want, and in acting on that interest, you could change the way she views you. Be prepared for that.

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monkey may be right, depending on the details of the situation, but because you guys have hooked up a couple times, and you have received some indication that there could be something there, I would give it a shot and see how she responds. but its your call

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PostPosted: Sat Nov 15, 2008 2:44 am 
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I have a friend named summer that ive been buddy buddy with for the last 3 years. over the last year we have grown closer and make out sometimes when drunk. sometimes i swear she wants to act on curiosity other times i think that she is just drunk and were friends.

How do i show some value and get this out of my system to see if their is more to our friendship. i want to be able to have my friend one nite, not be so friendly. :wink:
Look into Johnny Soporno's stuff he covers this exactly. But to cut it short- if you like her just ask her out. If she says no its not a big deal and your still friends. :) Just be REAL and HONEST about it.


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