how can i tell when i'm get shit tested, n what should my reaction be

Shit tests are simply used to test your frame to see if you're congruent with the identity you're putting across. They're usually in the form of a negative comment to do with you, or the fact that you're there talking to them. They use these to elicit a negative or defensive response from you, or to scare you off. The best advice I can give you is to either be unreactive to her comments or agree with her, exagerrate what she's said (almost like you're mocking her) then continue with whatever it was you were saying before she gets the chance to say anything. Don't seek a reaction from her, just deal with it and move on.

A shit test is a compliance test from the girl, -Can she control you, pull your strings-

eg 'can you get my handbag' , 'OMG i can't believe you said that [looks offended] '

your response should convey an unaffected attitude, maybe challenge her back 'only if you ....' or 'i'm not your puppet get yourself, princess!'

and thats it, be prepared to CHALLENGE her, thats what she is looking for -are you man enough to stand up to a girl-

on a side note you may sometimes offend her FOR REAL, in which case depending on the severity of it you can ether go 'ugh, your just so cute when your upset' or 'I'm only joking [squeeze her hands and make cute face]' - all i can say is after she test, be sure to move ON CHANGE TOPIC, don't allow silence act fussed over the incident,


all the best bro, tip for you if she tests you and your not sure about it, get her to do something first -even if its a smile- before you comply. -abide by your rules not hers-

quit add, i ment DON'T act fussed about the event, *phew