Whats up fellas, I run into this situation sometimes and I'm not sure what to do. Heres an example of what happened yesterday:
I went to a halloween party, saw a girl I hooked up with before (just made out) there, so chatted with her and told her I'd call her later.
Two parties and 4 hours later, I'm back at my apartment and I text her.
conversation goes something like
Me: hey i'm back...come say goodnight to me.
HB: how bout you come say goodnight to me?

Me: Come meet me then in front of my building

HB: Too far! meet me in front of my building i'll be downstairs
Me: Fine Fine woman where do you live
HB: (tells me where she lives)
First of all, did i just give in to her shit test? It seemed like if I kept telling her to come to my place to one-up her test would have resulted in nothing happening. What else should I have done?
Ok, then I met her up outside and we started making out after saying about two words to each other. Went back to her apartment, on her bed. Kino escalation, got her top and bra off. Gave a little finger action, but then she said "No not today" when I tried to take her shorts off. So took it easy for a while, just kissing and nothing else. Then escalated again with finger action then tried to take her shorts off again. Same thing happened.
So what should I have done? Any ideas?
Also, do you guys think its better for me to be more direct? It seems like in my attempt to not go through her "hoops" that I'm not being as direct as I should be.