I'm not the type to get jealous, at least I didn't think I was. But lately I've been getting jealous of a few guys my girlfriend talks to. Now she has always had friends that were guys, and I'm ok with that. But there is one guy who I'm really getting sick of. He is in her bio and chem classes, and is either retaking one or both of the classes. He texts her more than I do, and has said a few things I don't appreciate. One night they were talking about studying for a test while she was at my house, and he kept saying they could go on a lunch date and then study. She kept denying him, then he said something like ok we can study but you still owe me a date. She said back, "What kind of date?" And he responded with a date date, to which she replied, "I can't, I have a boyfriend, you know that." He came back with, "You know I don't care about your boyfriend silly. We will just go to a movie with a kiss at the end, you know you want to." She said something like, "I love my boyfriend, I'm not that kind of girl, friends is all we can be." Then he said, "Ok but if you guys split I'll be here for you." Now this is when she told me she said, "Ok." But I checked her phone later on that night before we went to sleep, and she said something along the lines of, "Thanks, that really means a lot to me. I'm glad to have a friend like you."

Now this really pissed me off. I confronted her about it, she said she can't be mean to anyone and that she felt bad for him. She said she has no other friends in the class, and he's someone to talk to. I let it go and went to sleep, but found out the next day she was chilling outside with him. She obvoiusly knew I didn't like the fact that she was hanging out with him, yet still did it. I picked her up from school and barely said a word to her. She kept asking what was wrong in the 2 minute drive from school to my house, and I finally said, "What do you think?!" I hopped out the car and went inside, leaving her there. About a minute later she comes up and ask if it was because she was hanging out with the kid, I said again, "What do you think?" I told her the kid disrespected me and she still has the balls to hang out with him. I don't want to be the boyfriend who tells his girlfriend who to hang out with and who not to, but this kid is hitting some nerves. He's still texting her asking her to hang out on the weekends, or inviting her over to his house to study. She keeps denying him but it doesn't get through his thick skull.

So what should I do about him? Just keep letting it go, even though it bothers the hell out of me? Am I in the wrong for not wanting her to hang out with him? She continuously tells me he is just a friend and nothing is going to happen, but I can't ignore the fact that he is probably hitting on her hardcore in class. I know if the roles were reversed and I had some girl all over me she would get really pissed as well. I just don't know what to do anymore...

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Maybe you should confront him. Tell him it's not cool, but don't get violent about it.

Hey man,

I had the same situation once. But when I found out he slapped her on the ass I immediatly confronted him, and told him sternly back the fuck off or there will be problems...I hate to admit it but I was ready to pucnh him if he gave me any lip about it. He didn't and claimed he didn't know what I was talking about. He did back off and my GF at the time loved how I handled it, turned her on.

I agree you should let the GF handle it at first so as not to be smothering or look insecure, but if he keeps disrespecting you I would definatly confront him about it, otherwise your GF may lose respect for you (hopefully she is not that type of girl).

Yes, confront him! Show him whos boss!

Maybe you shouldn't be snooping on her phone? Whether she is your girlfriend or not, she still deserves a little privacy. And by violating that privacy, you have conveyed that you don't trust her.

A little jealousy is fine - it shows that you care. But now you have allowed the jealousy to control your mind and your actions. So through this she will eventually perceive mistrust and will probably view your actions and attitude as overbearing. This will push her attraction for you DOWN, while the other guy who is playing it cool and working on her -- his attraction will go up.

Here is what you do: YOU play it cool, don't confront anyone. Occasionally when he comes up in discussion, really point out and exaggerate his faults and his annoying-ness. Once you have done that, the more he proceeds to push to get with her, the more she will get annoyed and be less attracted to him. Remember, he is chasing her.

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96Firebird, I would talk to your girlfriend about this. And make it clear that even tho she wants to be nice and all, but by her telling the guy she is taken but yet hangs out with him any way is sending mix singles to him. And he is taking it as if she is interested in him. She needs to stop communicating with the guy. I know you don't want to be the boyfriend that tells your girlfriend who she can and can't hang out with, but to a certain extent your girlfriend is allowing the guy's behavior to continue. And the longer the guy pursues your girlfriend and the more she hangs out with him the more likely she will cheat on you.

Thanks for the advice guys, I think I'm just going to chill for now. I've already brought up confronting him about the situation, but my girlfriend wants no drama and claims she can handle it. I can't really tell her to stop talking to the kid because he helps her a lot with schoolwork and shit, since he already took the class once he knows how to do most of the labs.

And Locke, I wasn't snooping. She was laying right next to me when I was looking on her phone, I was honestly looking at it to get a laugh at what he said. She doesn't have a problem with me looking at her phone, since she has nothing to hide (with the exception of this one time). I asked her why she lied about what she said back to him and she blatantly said it was because she knew I would get mad. I then asked her why she said it then and this is where the nice person line came out.

And he has gotten to the point where he is annoying her. She was studying for a test asking him questions about what on it and stuff, while I was sitting next to her watching TV. He said something like, "You should come over and study with me." I hear her say what the fuck, so I ask her whats wrong. She shows the text and rolls her eyes, and tells him she is studying at home with me there. He responded with something stupid like, "Your loss." And last weekend he invited her out to a bar where his friend was barbacking or something, she never responded to him. She tells me everytime he invites her over and its annoying the both of us.

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There you go. See, make him be the annoying one, not you!

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how about the next time he calls or wants to hang out, you answer the phone? Seems like you should step in a little bit, but not invade.
You could say something like yeah "your girls name" is busy right now you need me to tell her something?
or you could be like oh yeah lets go hang out I need to study too and see what he does.

I notice you keep saying kid, so is he a lot younger?

I would kind of be like uh what the hell, but know that you are the one WITH the girl. Def try to keep it cool. Maybe if he sees you two together kissing and doing what lovers do and what not he'll back off a little.

Id be irritated if i saw that crap, but dont over react, after all if dudes are jockin on your girl that hard she must be beautiful and thats more props to you.

anyway good luck and tell us how it goes

man.. i had the same damn problem like EXACTLY. its gonna difer how to handle this cause obviously every relationship is different and your two different people. But something comforting, If you trust your girlfriend, you dont need to worry, i know it bugs the shit outta you but if shes faithful and you trust her dont worry, your gf will definately come to you when he starts to go past the line. i know mine did. just keep doing what it is your gf likes you for and whys shes with you and not the other guy, shell appreciate it. my gf at the time came to me when the guy started really pushing to get her to hang out and shit and she ASKED me to say something. thats when i waited outside her class one day and when they came out he was scared shitless ( some reason i look very intimidating idk i get it all the time) but i gave him one nice ass talk. thanked him for helping my gf out with school but gave him a very stern warning as to back the fuck off or it wouldnt tke nothing for my ass to be waiting outside that class again and a talk would be the last thing wed be doing that time.

but ya, just keep your gf happy, shell realize the dudes just a flake trying to Pick her up. in the end she knows your there. Keep her happy man. thats key.

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He never calls to ask her to hang out, its always a text or he asks her in class. And I wouldn't answer her phone calls anyways, thats going a little too far IMO. He is only a year younger than me, but I call him a kid because I have little respect for him. The other day she asked for his friends number (who is in their bio class as well), and he wouldn't give it to her. I guess he got mad when she asked, which is rediculous. I mean who the fuck does this kid think he is? But his friend is cool, he keeps telling this kid to back off since she has a boyfriend, yet he doesn't listen. And I guess after she got his friends number they started texting about him during class because he was staring at them. She called him a creep through texts with his friend, which he is now, and they were talking shit about him. Well deserved, the kid needs to be taught a lesson that no means no.

I'm not much for confronting him because I'm a pretty small guy myself, about 5'10" 125lbs. I sure can use words though, I'm pretty good at knocking people down a peg or two with words. However, I don't want it to get to that point. It may have to happen, who knows. And I'm going to have to talk to my girlfriend about a few things as well. She wants to be nice, but rewarding him by hanging out with him for being a creep is not helping the situtation. And her sending him drunk facebook posts from MY computer during a party is not going to fly either, that pissed me off for some reason...

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Locke is right, great advice. Best thing to do is treat it as if your gf was your target, and amog the guy to hell. DHV, neg him, DHV, kino girl, neg him, etc.

Personally however, I would confront the bastard and fucking beat him up. I've been in the same situation and for me beating up is the easy solution to a lot of complicated shit =).

Motherfuckers.

That's why as a PUA i don't dig girls with bf's, unless they clearly are up for it, in which case the bf should move on anyway. Or if the guy is a prick =). Then the green light's a-go!

.....uh, there is no reason to resort to violence over a woman. "beating" someone up may solve the current issue, but that is extremely low value, barbaric, and unnecessary.

R Gamble, rather than give advice like that, I propose you do some personal development and reading. Strategy is always better than brute force. Those suggestions are very misguiding and never lead to any successful outcome.

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This shit just won't end... I thought he finally realized she wasn't interested, but he keeps saying shit. This time she texted him saying "Guess what", she was going to tell him both the chem and bio finals are on the same day one right after the other. He comes back with the smartass reply of, "You finally fell in love with a puerto rican prince blah blah blah" (He's part puerto rican) She replied with, "No, blah blah blah" and he just said back "oh". I mean seriously, do I have to get involved here? How many times does he have to get rejected before he realizes he's just being annoying.

And my girlfriend tells me today that her, this kid, and his friend (someone I've met and seems pretty cool, the one mentioned above) are getting together to study this weekend at a coffee place nearby. I was confused, so I asked if that was an invite or what. She said that she was just "running it by me", which I guess means she was just letting me know.

I'm just getting sick of this kid. I'm slowly waiting for this semester to end so he can disappear, and if he shows up after that something is going to be said for sure.

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I won`t give you any advice cause I would deal with it in not cool, not politically correct, barbaric, low value and unneccessary way.

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