It's been a few months now and I've progressively gotten better but it seems that I'm being reminded of her everywhere I go. Reason we broke up was because she was moving to new york for school and I guess she got tired of the way I used to treat her. There is alot more to it but thats not why I'm posting this topic.

I see pictures of her with her friends and other dudes on facebook and it does something to me I cannot explain. Does anyone have any advice, or have gone through the same dilemma?

I tried ignoring her for a while because she didn't seem to have an interest in how I was doing and always seemed busy. She recently started texting, calling, and leaving me facebook messages until I finally replied saying that I hope everything is going great and he had a short text dialogue. Any insight or advice would greatly be appreciated.

only time will heal all wounds. there not really a quick solution in this. Only other way is if you find another chick and click with her on an emotional level, leaving you to forget about your ex. I say the best way for you to get over her is to just not talk to her and once that emotion as subdue you can come around and be friends again. I use to be in love with my bestfriend and you know it was just onesided. The way i got over it was not to get involed with her life much and just try to carry on with my own. I rarely talked to her over the years (about 1 year 1/2) and eventually the feelings subdue. Now i can talk to her like a normal friends and about the guys she dates or advice and it feels great. I know it feels shitty but It takes time.

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Thanks man, I know there wouldn't be any quick cure for this but sharing your story helps. I've tried getting myself back in the gym and thats helped tons and its made me think of her less. If not for the gym and me trying to get things such as school in order, who knows what would be of me. I guess in the begining I was expecting her to at some point in time feel like she had made a mistake but I guess it doesn't really matter. Once my feelings due subdue, I will regain all of my confidence and be back to where I once was. It's funny how when I was taken, getting girls and sleeping around was so easy and since, it hasn't been the same lol.

If she is writing you on facebook, wait a couple days to write her back. Put up pictures of you and friends having fun. Try to put pictures of you and females that are at least as attractive as her and wearing slutty clothes. You can ask any girl with slutty clothes to take a picture with you and she will feel honored that you are interested. She will feel that you have moved on and don't need her anymore. She will write you more and despise the fact that you can be happy if not happier without her. Trust me, if you do this, you will notice her slight depression and it will amuze you. Almost, to the point of wanting to login just for a laugh. You will see her insecurity as a weakness and you will be over her.

That's exactly what I did... although I did want to talk to her, I was avoiding her for a while and I texted her back a few days later and never really replied the facebook message. She's the one who put up all the pictures online and I'm sure that was her intent. I treated her bad and never really let her go out and what-not, I guess it makes sense. I'm not worried so much about her thinking I'm over her, I'm just trying to step out of this cold streak.

dont try to make it a jealousy war. Its just gonna make things worst and make you stress over it more. Infact just delete her completely from your facebook. Be the bigger man and step away from it all. I know its hard not to check up on her facebook page and all and you'll sometimes log in and try and find her but its just gonna get you emotional. Step away from it all just drop her untill you feel its the right time to talk to her again.

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It's her 21st birthday on the 23rd and she's coming down for thanksgiving. When I was exchanging text messages with her she said she'd like to have lunch or something when she comes down here. Not really sure how that's gonna work out lol. I'm planning on just being as distant as possible, maybe catching up a bit but that's about it, I'm not gonna bring up the past.

I have exactly the same problem. I broke up with my ex this spring beacuse she wanted to move to my city, and also move in together (we lived 30 miles from each other). Now she studies at my university and lives in the same city. It sucks beacuse I can't get over her, it was like 6 months ago and I'm thinking about her more and more. The problem is that she's the most attractive girl I've ever been with, and it's the same in bed.

I need to go out, sarge til' I puke and find someone more attractive than her!

Good luck!

DO NOT contact her

DO NOT look her up

DO NOT ask about her to her friends/your friends

DO NOT think about her (yes you can control your thoughts by simply chosing to change your way of thinking when a stimulus such as familiarity enters your head) - think about something else instead

DO - Change your environment

DO - Change your appearance; New clothes, workout, groom better.

DO - Get out there in the dating game

DO - Positive things around your education and career

Focus on yourself.

Build up the backbone of your character which is foremostly your career/eduction.

Have goals, have standards, look to the future and accept what is now the past.

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I suggest you dont do this. cause then you'll be at square one. Just tell her you cant and busy. if she ask with what say you have plans with other people already (even if you dont) It just shows her that you moved on with your life to something new and better. If you meet her at anytime She is gonna have the upper hand and you are gonna be in the same spot.

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I went through the same thing man, it sucks. It sucked so much because I couldn't escape the inner recesses of my own mind. All the advice you need is in this post (quoted below), its almost exactly what I did...and it works. Its why I got into the Game in the first place, to move on to greener pastures. There are 2.5 Billion women on this planet with you and many millions more turning 18 every minute of every day....thats a lot of pussy

Peace.

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Thanks SIS, I've been trying to do the majority of the things that you pointed out but I guess I haven't been doing enough and haven't shown the determination that I need.
I swear I wouldn't be asking for advice if this wasn't my exact problem. I would post a picture of this girl so you'd understand (not to mention it was a nearly 3 year relationship), but I don't think it would help or prove any points. I need to internalize the fact that not every girl I meet has to live up to her or be as good looking. Not to say that I've never settled with a girl that wasn't super hot but that's always seemed to be a problem of mine.